A few days back, a young fellow asked why ladies prefer older men.  The answers made sense, but since I'm in my twenties, I figured none of thse things mattered to me.  Hehe.  I just had an experience with a 24 year old fellow:

No soap in the bathroom.
No towel to dry my hands.
Upon asking for a towel, he said he only had one towel and it was his shower towel.  Handed me a T-shirt instead.
No toilet paper (WTF?  Does he use the shower curtain?)
Gave me a glass of tea in a plastic souvenior cup.
Was actually playing his video game when I arrived.

None of these things are so bad, but to have all of them at once.... This is not someone I want to see again.  

I have to admit I probably would have been this inconsiderate myself in my twenties. It's good advice for guys who are hosting. For Christ's sake, make up a little checklist of basics to make the chick feel comfortable.

Hmm I'm sorry that has happened to you.

It was really nice of you to tolerate all those things at once...

I'm also in my 20s, and sometimes it is so hard to schedule an appointment with a provider.

But when I schedule an appointment with a provider, I do prepare a lot before I see providers, and actually take a lot of time just preparing for the appointment.

....not all of us..or 20s are like that

lol, I'm 26 but I wouldn't do anything like that. I wouldn't say that I'm "mature", but I do know what providers think... and would take it into consideration.

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Hahaha!!!  This sounds like the guy I used to see, also pretty young.  His shower curtain was full of molds, ugh!  He still calls me sometimes but the thought of the curtain is just too disgusting.  Eww.

So, as a 27 year old going for the first time soon.

I have all the above except no towel to dry hands, ha!

I don't play video games.

You should probably be as prepared for a woman no matter WHY or for WHAT she's coming over.

I mean if I brought home a girl from a bar...how would she wash her hands.

Gosh. Thanks for this, and the related link....helped me so much as has a lot of this.

But hey I have caviar. Tastes like sea water.

Waanh.  I had to drink from a styrofoam cup.  waanh.

....because a few random 20 something customers represent the entire group.  Generalizing is fun!  Good job.

Ah, youth is wasted on the young...

I'm not sure that we considered ourselves hobbyists, but we did find ways to share information.  I heard about this really great provider not too far from me, decent rates, possibly the best service from an Indy in the DC area... After going through the screening process the age thing didn't come up.  After she had checked my references (yes, they checked them back then too) she told me that one of my references told her I was "really mature for my age" which was when I found out that she had age restrictions, I was about 25 at the time and had a  solid history by this time.  I was bummed and she wouldn't make exceptions.

Some things don't change!

I've had similar experiences with some ladies who did in-call at their place after we knew each other better. Some were young, and some were not.

enlighten us with the crazy experiences you encounter. Some are really funny and others, like this one, educate us as to the things you have to put up with. You should all get together and write a book as it would be a great read.
As far as the younger generation, if I were a provider I would have a surcharge of $50 above my regular fees for any hobbyiest under a certain age. This would cover my expenses for the toiletries, towels, etc. that I would bring with me, including my time in purchasing them. I would then leave these with him upon leaving as a token to his next not so prepared provider. Also, I would bring matches with me just in case his shower curtain is full of mold...really fun to watch plastic burn

I think this is a good thread...  a woman does expect certain things, no matter whether a provider or a civie first date.  At that age, I'd just bought my first home, had all those necessities and was carrying on an affair with "an older married woman of '35'".  I never did get her into my bed though we did it everywhere else.  By then her husband suspected and raised the challege level even higher!  
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If it was something James Bond would have done, your lady guest will like it.  Potpouri, clean towel, maybe some ice to put in her drink.

She's a sure thing, but still-- make it good for her and she'll make it AMAZING for you.

I just wanted to put this on the net.  Maybe my next 20-something will have read it.  Maybe there will be a plush towel waiting for me in the bathroom with a brand-new roll of Charmin.  

BTW,  I posted this under an alias for a reason.  It isn't my intention to embarass the poor fellow.  Besides, styrofoam is soooo 1980s.  It's all about post-consumer now, baby!

Four words, D-A-T-Y.

lol

and the souvenir one as well!

He probably swigs it right from the can or bottle.

It is a shame that others suffer for the cluelessness of a few.

The only thing I can offer for the twenty-somethings out there who desperately want to hobby with the finest is to learn how to express yourself maturely in writing, and then set out to woo yon fair maiden with eloquent (meaning grammatically correct and effective) prose; then hope for the best.

And, keep that shower curtain clean, or get a room at a half decent hotel.

(Check out your wardrobe while you're at it too.)

Too list them is to risk being labeled everything from sexist to homophobic. Suffice to say however; the differences between genders go far further than genitalia and child birth, and it is these very differences that confound, frustrate and endear us to each other.

Another woman has already born the brunt of young male barbaric behavior and imposed some basic concepts of hygiene and consideration on the middle age (or older) man. I think you ladies should give preference to older, married gents! We are much more appreciative and considerate - or at least, less oblivious than we used to be. Besides, most of us are too old for video games. Pong, anyone?

Now i'm going to make you work and go back to the earlier post. There's a link that arosebyanothername posted. Sorry i'm late but I missed your original post or I would have given you that info.

I am a very mature affectionate kissable lady who just loves the company of the younger gentlemen and have had few problems in the past. Hey a newbie has to start somewhere and I hope it's with me. If things aren't perfect the first time I just give little hints with a few extra kisses to boot and the next time it's there. Yes, most first timers do become a special attachment for me and wonderful memories ensue.
    Kisses Haley

Maybe, you're just running into the wrong kind of 20 somethings.  There are also quite a lot of highly successful 20 somethings out there that have luxury homes that are quite more welcoming.  You attribute it to his age....but 10 years from now, he'll probably still have no charmin and be serving drinks out of styrofoam cups.  He was probably just a gross guy to begin with and would be like that whether he's 25 or 45.  Habits start at a young age.

YOU justed dated yourself with that one!!
I by the way was the neighborhood Pong champ til my older brother stole the glory from me.
I hear ya!
I do not see anyone who is under 36 and prefer to see Gents in their 40s and 50s Mostly the maturity and sensuality that comes with age is what i am attracted to.It really shouldn't be seen as an insult by younger men that older woman are not interested in seeing them.If a  Younger man is not interested in seeing me because of my age, thats cool I have no issue with that. Also its the fact that I do not want to see someone the age of my own daughter. Its a preference, I just prefer it that way.



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the same from his civvie dates.  He's good marriage material, right?  You need to out him to providers in your area, so they will not have to suffer his childish efforts at seducing women.....LOL

Swim

I stopped thinking that loud farts & belches were funny...

or more accurately, at what age I tried to make them inconspicuous.

Maybe my point is that it's all about manners and something called savoir faire.

It's unfortunate that you're 800 miles away... otherwise I'd have contacted you by now

It makes me think I'm seeing a guy from school. hehe.

I saw one guy in his 20's at his mom's house in the room he grew up in (with his parents upstairs.) lol. We ate pizza, played some video games as foreplay and then played around. All in all, I had fun. It was definitely different, but I felt more relaxed bc I thought that even if his parents were to come down the hall, I just looked like I fit. If I were older, I would probably be nervous and freaking out. I'm in my 20's,though, he's in his... I looked like I could've met him in class so I wasn't worried. lol.

He had soap and towels in the bathroom, though... his mom's.

Katie