There has been a recent outbreak of "I've fallen for a provider and I can't get up" posts on several TER boards lately.  It's been a while since I was wet behind the ears, but there was a time.  Now, I know several providers that confide in me.  Usually it's over lunch, in email conversations, or at meet & greets.

Anyway, before you folks jump off the bridge to true love with a provider, let me tell you a little secret.  The ladies are working.  Their job involves making you feel good, physically and emotionally.  Many of them are incredible at it.  I've even gotten sucked in before, but never to the point of doing stupid things.  Hopefully, as you embark on this carnal journey, you'll realize that this is an AWFUL place to find a girlfriend, unless it's for an hour or two.

I personally know a couple ladies that truly hate their jobs.  They have incredible reviews, so you'd never know.  This isn't to say that you should run away, or that every lady is like this, but it's important to keep your head about you.

Now, go get yourself screened, grab a fistful of dollars, and go fuck someone.

Hello, I hope everyone is doing wellDoes this genuinely happen? When one of my clients professes their love, I am not able to take it serious *considering that I am a provider.* In the back of my mind I usually think they have an agenda or motive behind it. I try to avoid the subject when I can, so it is not awkward. I have grown feelings for some of my close clients, but I'm just not sure all the love talk is really genuine. lol. What is your experience with this?

I began developing attachments to a woman I met at the then-functioning Mustang Ranch outside of Reno back in the early 90's. We had a couple of overnights from the Ranch to my hotel room in Reno and had a wonderful time -- slow, relaxed, making what I thought was a real connection.

We later expanded this to weekends at her place in SF, wtih me traveling there for a Fri. night thru Sun. afternoon interlude that was mostly us just hanging out interspersed with more great playtime in bed.

There came a point when I talked to her about my growing attachment to her and developing some feelings, and she had "the Talk" with me. Seems this was a business for her and that if she were to give up the business (and the perks of financial independence it brought her), she would have to have a concomitant financial independence from her man. Bottom line was that she needed a multi-millionaire to fund her lifestyle if she was going to give up providing.

Since I wasn't "that guy," we had no more talk of such things. Saw each other twice more and then drifted apart -- guess it had run its course.

So yes -- men do feel the attachments that come with intimacy (even in a commercial environment) and can confuse that with love. Some act upon it and consequences flow --

As Lily Tomlin said, "Reality is SO confining as a life style."

I wonder why a provider would want to talk and have lunch with a moderator or hang out at a m&G.  It wouldn't be you he could show any favoritism to her. Would it?

That's not very honest.

Let's say a girl did not want to do any of those things with you. Would you show the same type of favoritism to a girl that did not want to associate with you in the same manner? Probably not.

Now that I've figured out who you are, my dilemma is whether I expose you as the piece of shit that I know you are, or to discuss the issue at hand.

I knew better than to assume you'd crawled back under the rock you'd come up from, but was hoping that you'd gone away due to pimping out underage girls, and posing them here as independents.

So, do I have friends that are escorts?  You bet, several of them for a few years.  Do they get preferential treatment?  Nope.  Moderated a few of them when they crossed the line, and gave them an ear to bitch to when they needed it.  There are plenty of posters that I've never met that I've helped, and plenty more that hate me.  That's the role I play here.  Just don't confuse your issue with mine... asshole.

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Phil can defend himself but I can't help notice that what you are talking about in your post has nothing to do with what he is talking about in his post!  You simply decided to use this thread to question the integrity of a moderator.  For what reason I'm not sure...

I have 2-3 friends in this hobby. When we play, I'm treated like anyone else. When we talk, Im a friend. It doesn't, Bd shouldn't, go further than that.

Truth be told, I think you let the asshole off easy.

so we can have a party?

We can easily justify a political or religious agenda in his post.
C'mon.. Don't make me wait until Saturday

Not to throw water on a couple of dogs having a party but...

LP, it seems that as serious as your accusations are that this isn't the appropriate forum (i.e. public), as much as we all might like to watch. I assume that yo have some history and insider info to back your statements up; however, this is now into major league illegal activity. As opposed to your basic garden variety misdemeanor solicitation type crap.

Just sayin'.

But yeah, it's not idle chatter.