Hello

I've been reading up on screening and legal issues, maybe I missed my particular Q's...
I've been providing on and off for a few years,
now just recently able to be more focused on it.

In Portland I didn't post my #, and this worked well as far as keeping busy, yet also eliminated game players.
99% who emailed were already salty dog hobbyists, so not much screening needed.

Here is Florida...Not so much.
Except for a handful of wonderful gentlemen...Guys here want me to drive an hour to "see I'm a real person", be my pimp, use explicit language, or give provider references from the 80's. lol

Am I being too paranoid? Should I put the # up?
Should I give some the benefit of the doubt when they act clueless?
I really don't want to do outcalls on the first meeting, freaks me out, and I have anxiety anyway. BUT it seems like I'll be forced to...

Thanks for your advice cats & kittens,
Tayler Lake

This is just my opinion, but I wouldn't give anyone the benefit of the doubt who acts like an idiot/child/punk/, etc. Just because someone acts clueless doesn't mean they are clueless. They could be setting you up for something you don't want. Screen, screen, screen, especially if you're moving to a different part of the country. I would also suggest going on the Florida board and PM'ing some of the ladies there, such as Sindie, Eve, Haley, etc. But that's just me.

And, as John suggested, go to the Florida board. I don't live there, but I know quite a few of the people on the board. If you start posting there, and get involved, you will get a warm welcome, from the ladies, as well as the guys.

And never let your guard down. Always screen.

I never post my number.  I only give it to a gentleman after he has been screened and an appointment has been set.  When I first started out, i would post my number.  Too much bs, I didn't have the time to take the calls, know way of knowing who's on the other end, time wasters, etc.  I changed my number and since then use email only for initial contact.  You still get the few who waste time, but this method works best for me.  

I would do as much screening as necessary and NOT post your number if you don't want to.  Do not change your screening methods for anyone.  If a person does not like how you screen, it wasn't meant for you to meet him.  I only meet with men who respect my screening process.

If you dont want to post your number, dont do it. I have NEVER posted my number for all to see, and have never had any problems. A gent only gets my # after screening, some initial emails, and setting up an appointment. Dont EVER change your screening methods just because you think it might be easier. If someones being a pain in the ass, dont see them. Hell, its for YOUR safety anyway. No person, or amount of money is worth compromising your safety. Dont ever waste your time with people that arent serious. The gents who are serious, know how this stuff works, are polite, and your ideal kind of client are the ones who wont mind taking the time to email you and do what they need to do so that you'll feel comfortable. Oh, and a little paranoia is healthy for all of us, when you get careless, you get yourself in trouble. Always keep your eyes and ears open. Keeps you safe. Anyway, hope this helps! xoxo

that said, after reading your site I see nothing particulary onerous about your requests. I am one of those hobbyists that refuse to jump through hoops that I find unreasonable, but nothing you ask for seems unreasonable to me.

If you don't like receving phone calls from strangers, than by all means don't post your phone number and if outcalls to unknown clients also makes you uncomfortable don't do it either. Your safety and piece of mind come first even to a "black knighter" like me.

"Should I give some the benefit of the doubt when they act clueless?" I'm not certain if I get the total picture of what you mean, but my gut reaction is, "no!" It seems like your screening methods are valid. So, it's not your job to educate clueless guys, at the price of putting your safety at risk. And, usually coming across as clueless is just a ploy to have everything on their terms. Please stay safe. As the others, above have said, start posting on your local board. You'll get allot of help.

take chances.

One bad experience is too many.

Posting on the Florida board is a great suggestion.

You could think asking for provider references,
that the best way to learn about a guy.

That also show guys that you are serious. Yes I don't like giving them out, but that what it takes to make this thing work. That way the ladies I see can have confidence in me.

Hello Tayler. All the cats and kittens are giving you the best advice ever. Take from one who recently got burned by a second time visit, thought all was well and then, toasted!! I should have listen to my gut and screened better. Now i know it is not rude or should not be considered an inconvience to screen. I love the gents who are kind enough to be upfront and provide info without a hassle, big wet deep kisses for you guys!

Ok GaGambler that was funny.  This could be a new alias for you!  

BBxxx aka Spinnerboy

I wouldn't give out your phone number to begin with.  I personally like email.  Men who aren't flakes won't mind your screening process.  And when it comes to giving the "benefit of the doubt", your safety is more important.  Don't compromise your safety.

All the posters above are cool and have given you great advise.

Best of luck.

BBxxx

GG apka(also "possibly" known as) The Black Knight.

Of course there is also the Martin Lawrence version, but I prefer Monty Python humor to Martin Lawrence.

Thank you for your input, it made me feel better about how I handle things...I'm sooo glad I'm not the only one who doesn't have their # up.
Off to the FL board to meet the nice folks there...Have a good one everybody...Big kiss!

-TL

And thanks to you for posting the question. It's a reminder to all of us to not let our guards down.

never understood why so many ladies list their phone number.  E-mail contact should be fine until you want to talk to a hobbyist to get an idea of his personality (a tool many ladies use for screening as well).

Yes, I realize you can turn your phone "off" so you are not disturbed at all hours of the night.