I'm new to all this and trying to figure everything out.  I was wondering in general how many different providers do folks see.  For instance if you have found one that you really like, it maybe difficult to see her when you are both available. So do you have several that you see on a somewhat regular basis?

I think you'll find the whole range here. Some fellows have one provider they see on a regular basis (some my even have a "sugar-daddy" type of relationship with a lady). Some have one regular they see but see other ladies now and then. Some see a different lady every time. (From my experience as a provider, this doesn't seem quite as common- most of my clients have seen me at least twice).

From my own experience, I would think that most common would be a guy having a regular to spend time with (maybe once a month or once every other month, depending on how much he participated in the hobby) but branching out now and then to see different ladies (which allows for new, traveling ladies and if he were to go out of town, along with seeing any local providers he hasn't seen, or maybe continues to see as well).

For some, I think there's a little danger (namely emotionally) in seeing the same person exclusively. For a newbie, I think this is especially the case. Until you get more of a feel for what hobbying is about, I highly recommend playing the field. If you find a provider you really like, keep seeing her, but keep playing the field as well. In my own experience, I think newbies (both provider newbies and client newbies) have a bit more tendency to be unsure of the boundaries in the relationship and are thus more likely to overstep those boundaries, which can cause a lot of problems.


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I try to have at least two ladies that I see regularly in each town I visit.  That way I've usually got a good chance of seeing one or the other.

I generally like to see a different provider each time.  Each provider delivers a different experience, and it's fun to see what each one is like.  It could be different ages, ethnic groups, physical characteristics, or even personalities.  It's a way to enjoy the variety that's somewhat frowned upon in the civvie world.  (And for some men, very difficult to get.)

However, when my primary concern is comfort level and/or a guaranteed pleasant time, then I see one of the providers I've met before.  I feel more relaxed, and she's often more affectionate than last time.  So it ends up being a win-win situation.

I tend to have about 3 ladies I see on rotation regularly.  If one of the lady is not available I just go to the next on the rotation.  Rarely do I branch out because all three are not available.  I feel that being a regular I get better service than seeing a new lady for the first time.

I actually like to see a different one each time. Different ages, races, and appearances have made it more fun for me. It's always something new. Plus I don't have to worry about scheduling as much. I just see whoever is available on the night that works for me.

If you are not seeking any sort of real chemistry, connection or intimacy with a provider, and your sole object is to get laid, than I would recommend seeing as many ladies who you find physically desirable. What some gentlemen love about the hobby is that it affords the wonderful opportunity to have sex with as many women as possible. Of course this is not to say that if you find a lady who rocks your sexual world you shouldn’t see her again. Of course you should. But the men in this category tend not to limit their sexual options and see multiple providers without really getting too close to any one in particular.

On the other hand, men who desire to cultivate a relationship with a provider (in whatever capacity they deem appropriate) might choose to see only one or two ladies. Here the hobbyist is trying to develop a chemistry or rapport with a particular lady. These men tend to book longer appointments where they take their time and really try to talk with a provider and share more intimacy. They want to create that true girlfriend experience. The sex is only part of the totality of the session.

To each his own. There is no right answer. If you want to have sex with as many ladies as possible, go for it. If you want to develop an intimacy and friendship with one or two providers and see them exclusively, go for it. No rules other than to have fun and play safe

It's fun to mix and match.

Like any epicurinan delight, variety is key; large, small, dark, light, short, tall...gotta love 'em all.

One, so far. I usually plan way far in advance since I only hobby once a month, so no problem about conflicting schedules. I have figured that throughout my hobbying life I might see at most 3-5 different ladies.

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Once1, Hardy hit it right on the head for me in his response.  Everyone is looking for different things.  

I am the type when I go to a restaurant and I find what I feel is the perfect meal, why venture out to try something new the next time.  

I can understand though how others feel variety is the spice of life.  Just follow what is most comfortable to you.

most of my better friends are providers, and I enjoy expanding my circle of friends!!!

I have my original ATF and then backups when she is not available.  Since I normally only do overnights I plan weeks and even months in advance.  I've seen different ladies in Dallas, Cincinnati, Nashville, Atlanta, Miami, Ft. Lauderdale, Marco Island, Orlando, Memphis, Indianapolis, Detroit, and Vancouver.  Maybe next year I'm going to try London.

I hobby about every other week, seeing my ATF one week, then seeing someone new, alternating. Like Raven, when my appetite desires a particular dish, I visit the restaurant I favor for that. However, once in a while, I like to try a new dish, and go looking for a new place.

how about being lucky enough to find 2 multi-faceted women........there's always something nmew with them....oh, I played the field.....none can compare.......one lady I have seen maybe 30 times, the other, known longer, maybe 80........still fresh and always new......

I have a couple of very steady ladies right now-one local and one that I visit a few states away three or four times a year. Honestly they are both amazing and I am quite spoiled so I haven't been seeing too many new ladies when I travel lately as I sometimes do.  This is always a very fluid hobby and your inclinations may change on a fairly regular basis. For years I tried a new lady every time, then I had a rotation of about three very hot Brazilian gals who I alternated with. They eventually all moved on and my current local fav went form being one many to being the one who keeps me coming back!

Do what feels right but keep in mind that what keeps you happy may change over time.

Depends on both the lady's schedule and my schedule.  Generally, I repeat about once every other month and see a new lady the other months.

Like to see a new provider with the intention of making them a regular if they are exceptional or match a prior provider's skill level. There will be one or more that do everything perfect and it becomes a question of; do you want a great bbbj from one provider who will be great everytime or do you need variety at the expense of less skill.

but this certainly is not one of them. I too count many providers as my better friends, some I see professionally, many I do not.

When I find a provider that I like and that I am comfortable I prefer to only see that provider.  I am much more relaxed when I am with someone that I have seen before.