I have several issues that prevent me from scheduling meetings when I would like to. Most of them are because I am with my wife almost 24/7. We work together and she's the receptionist. I can't give a provider my work information and have her call to verify it, she would be talking to my wife! On the rare occasion I could get away for a meeting, it is usually very spur of the moment. Would it help if I signed up with Date-Check. Does a provider have to be a paying member of Date-Check in order to use it to verify my info? Would Date-Check have to call my work?
Somebody give me some tips please.

Yes Date-Check is the way. Making an appointment is easier and you don't usually have to go through the hassle, because you have the other providers vouching for your on your page. I suggest you check out the "using date-check" section It tells you more about it.  

http://www.date-check.com/faq.asp

check around in your area.  In some areas of the country, some of the other verification services are more prevalent, like P411 for example.  Use the one most frequently used where you are.

Good luck.

Swim

If the provider ever retires, your references never disappear.   Its great for finding independants as well.