The reason for the envelope and not mentioning the donation is to protect the lady from you being LE.  Once you have actually had sex with her and it is clear that you are not a cop there is nothing wrong with discretely placing whatever amount you want to tip her somewhere in plain site-perhaps right next to the envelope if it is still in view.

Tipping in advance would be a bit foolish, the other options you mentioned would all work however I would not touch the original envelope as the lady may get spooked and think you are going to try and take some or all of the donation back.

to tip is a personal choice.
If like some the original envelope already has more than the stated donation, thats a nice added treat and always unexpected and appreciated.
Others at the end of the appt may decide to tip being that the situation exceeded what they had hoped for or expected, also a very appreciated and nice touch. When all is said and done, and she has collected her envelope already, you can leave an extra tip by her purse hand it to her or just place it down. Look at this point, the deed is done, you are not about to cart her off to jail, so feel free to hand her the extra if you'd like. No worries. I doubt Anyone is going to turn down a tip after the fact. Its just inappropriate to talk$$$ before hand, after well its a safer bet. Just MHO...works for me! lol

For me, by the end I know if I'm going to "tip" or not. Not really something I'm a big believer in personally because frankly the going rate is darn good. But I digress.

If an incall I just excuse myself to wash up right before I leave and set the cash next to the sink.
If an outcall, the lady always goes to the bathroom at least once before leaving and I slide the cash under the envelope. Then just turn away or get a swig of water, or something just as she picks it up.
If she's picked up the envelope at the beginning (very few have) then I simply leave it where the envelope was and mention as she walks near it, I think you dropped something.

Not once had there been a bad experience.

Don't sweat it too much.

hug and kiss, thrust your hand into your pocket and palm the bills.

As you bring your hand back from around her back, let your hand glide into hers and transfer the bills to her palm.

Say nothing but just gaze into her eyes.

It's a nice touch and she will remember.

as nicole said as after the fun has taken place we already know you are not LE and it is clear to discuss/handle the money. So handing it to her is just fine! and most girls if you have extra in the envelope will notice!

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Re: Etiquette of giving a tip?

I will always tip at the end of the session if she has exceeded my expectations. I will thank her for making me feel like a king. Give her a kiss and a hug and hand her the tip and smile. Works for me every time. Seeing her face light up is always priceless.

SR