Umm well lets see, you should CLEARLY end the marriage, because at this point you are stringing her along and you know it. Cut her loose and let her find happiness with someone else since it's not with you
THAN go play the game until you are tired of it and want to be back in a relationship. Just pray you dont turn into an addict like Charlie Shean.
Bringing home a disease because you cant/dont have the decency to end it because you like SOME part of the marriage is much more worse in the end than being discovered. Finding out you are a cheater is much more forgivable than giving someone a lifelong disease.
You asked the Ethical question, I am giving you an ETHICAL answer
So this hypothetical married man wants to get into the hobby in a bad way. There are things he likes about his marriage, but it has become a little like p4p, but without the second p.
Should he
Discuss his new plans and let the cards fall where they may?
or
End the p4_ arrangement and go play after the dust has settled?
Play and risk bringing home a disease (herpes) or otherwise being discovered?
Umm well lets see, you should CLEARLY end the marriage, because at this point you are stringing her along and you know it. Cut her loose and let her find happiness with someone else since it's not with you
THAN go play the game until you are tired of it and want to be back in a relationship. Just pray you dont turn into an addict like Charlie Shean.
Bringing home a disease because you cant/dont have the decency to end it because you like SOME part of the marriage is much more worse in the end than being discovered. Finding out you are a cheater is much more forgivable than giving someone a lifelong disease.
You asked the Ethical question, I am giving you an ETHICAL answer
If you consider it sinful to lie and have sex with other women, then, by all means end your marriage and take up the hobby or find other ways to explore your sexual interests.
On the other hand, you may feel it overall best to hobby discretely and keep those parts of your marriage you enjoy intact. Some do the latter and seem to do fine with it.
Of course, there is always the possibility of you being found out and having to go through the hell of a divorce. I did the latter but I think in all everything turned out for the best.
As for disease, I think that if you see good quality providers and practice safe sex, it should not be a problem. It hasn't been a problem for me in almost forty years of hobbying, for example.
As for the question you asked in a later post about addiction, the answer is yes, to some extent. All good things are. The question is whether we manage it well, or not.
By the way, I think you mean that the first P is missing, as in "play" (sex) for "pay".
In marrige, there is always plenty of pay, but often not much play.
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