Original Post by CiaraPhx:
Do's and Don'ts of the business, #3
Posted by CiaraPhx , 5/17/2007 2:16:35 AM [See my TER reviews]
Okay, here's my yearly observation for hobbyists and providers (again). After another year of sensual escapades with men, I have realized that there are several things both providers and hobbyists might find helpful on a date or may find repulsive. Hey! You can disagree with me, but actually I'd love to hear other's opinions on what makes them comfortable and happy. Here are some of mine (and a few opinions of providers I have spoken to recently without mentioning names):
Likes:
1) Someone with a gentle touch, and someone who slowly slides their fingertips up and down the body (especially down the spine, the back of the knees, the feet and neck).
2) Someone who really knows how to kiss and gives you a meaningful hug (opinions on this may vary, but that's what communication is for). Don't take offense if someone asks you to do something differently. I don't. Everyone's different.
3) I love to kiss and hug when someone first steps in the door, but I also try to sense if someone is uncomfortable with what I'm doing. However, after the intial kiss -- or kisses -- please allow me to come up for air, maybe sip on a drink and converse a little. Of course, this depends on how horny with both become. Like Carly Simon once sang, "Anticipation is making me wait."
4) I certainly love to spoil my friends and it's always nice and surprising when a friend wants to give me a backrub. But if you're going to massage me, please use oil if you have strong and rough hands, and don't get me excited about it -- only to find out you'll be doing a poor rendition of the two-finger tango down my spine and then stop. A two-minute massage is worse than none. It's torture.
5) I love nice-smelling cologne on the neck but I do not like it right on the man's p_ _ is, especially baby powder. If I wanted to taste snow then I would have brought my sled.
6) Trim the hair way back on your male member and -- if possible -- shave the twins. There's nothing better than Swedish Meatballs and Italian Sausage without having to floss afterward.
7) Make sure if you used the bathroom after showering, you clean yourself again down there. And . . . don't forget to clean the a _ _ hole too. If I wanted a hot fudge sundae I'd have ordered one with nuts and whipped cream earlier in the day.
8) If you talk dirty to me that's fine and it can be fun, but if you say "cunt, whore, broad or bitch," expect me to kick your a _ s. Just kidding. Actually, that would probably bring out the old sergeant and "butch" in me.
9) Most providers -- at least mature providers -- don't really care to wrestle. However, if you would like me to slap the crap out of "you" then please feel free to hand me the whip. My body is now meant for "love not war."
10) I love erotic lingerie, but I have to admit that garter belts are harder than heck to put on, especially if you're long-waisted like me. It's like a man's jock strap continually slapping him back in the face. It hurts and it's frustrating. So . . . be prepared to help me into them or see them hanging down when I open the door.
11) I love it when men ask me, "Can I bring anything?" I usually say, "No, that's okay, unless you want something special." I never expect men to bring anything extra but it's polite when they ask.
12) If you want me to wear something special then tell me. I love to please a man and even role-play, but if it's really exotic then you might have to buy it.
Dislikes:
1) Most of us have commented that a good kiss sometimes starts out slowly, outlining the lips ever so softly and then develops into something more passionate. However, some feel it's either necessary to give your entire throat an examination or wiggle it so fast you feel like you're kissing a lizard -- not romantic, plus it's hard to follow. If you're going to be a reptile, than be a Chameleon AND CHANGE.
2) When someone is giving you oral pleasure, please don't push down hard on the lady's head. If I control the thrust then I will probably not throw up on you.
3) Many people, especially men, talk about how great 69 is. Well, guess what? A lot of my friends don't even care for it. Yes, it's fun for a short while, but one-on-one is much more relaxing and satisfying. After all, not all of us are rubber-stretch dolls. And I'm paying too much attention to the man to feel all the sensations of what he's doing to me. After all, if you're going digging for oil you might as well drill slow and deep.
4) Please, please, please brush your teeth and carry breath mints. After we've had drinks or snacks and both our mouths taste like an Army trench, then it's okay -- but not to start off the date. Plus, keep mints and/or mouthwash near your place of rendezvous.
5) Make sure everything you think you might need is on the bed table, near you: different sized C's, massage oil, lube, ice water, toys (if you use them) and a towel. There's nothing worse than interrupting the session to search for something.
6) I know some people have allergies and are extra sensitive to some things I like. Therefore, I always ask the gentleman beforehand if he is allergic to perfumes or oils, what his favorite color is and what he would like to drink.
7) I always put a big smile on my face when I greet someone. I am a very positive person, and I realize the last thing a friend needs is a grumpy provider. If you cannot act well or are really not going to have a good time then cancel the appointment in advance (if possible). For me, this has never been a problem.
8) I walk around barefoot a lot. Hence, rough feet. Before an appointment, I always file down the feet, clean them (again) and use a wonderful Ginger/Sugar scrub. I also try to make sure my feet have a decent pedicure and are smooth.
9) I always clean myself (again) right before the client walks through the door. I may have showered 20 minutes prior to this, but I feel I want the just-stepped-out-of-the-shower feel and smell. Maybe it's just me, but I always worry about not being clean enough. I get wet very easy.
10) I expect men to read my website so they know what to expect and what to do before meeting me. Please don't ask questions like: 1. How much is it again? 2. Where do you want the envelope? Just place it in plain sight in front of me. I think I can figure out the rest. 3. What is your real name? If I wanted a new client to know my real name then I wouldn't have a stage name. Please respect my privacy.
11) If you use my toilet, please clean up if you've aimed incorrectly. There's nothing worse than having to wipe pee off of the toilet and -- even worse -- off the floor.
12) A lot of providers shave down there, to include me. If you feel the need to massage me down there, please do it gently and in a downward motion. We get razor burn too.
I know there are a lot more things I could have mentioned, but I don't want to bore anyone. Plus, I want other's opinions regarding their likes and dislikes.
Hugs,
Ciara
-- Modified on 5/17/2007 2:41:20 AM
