So I was fortunate enough to have the provider of my choice agree to see me considering that I'm a newbie to the hobby. We set up a time in a couple of days and she asked me to call to confirm a few hours before. Now I'm nervous and very excited and I have a few questions for all you vets of the hobby out there:

1) This is not just my first time with a provider, but my first time period. With that said, I'm anticipating and concerned about a "rapid discharge." Should I tell her about this before starting anything?

2) When is the right time to suggest a type of outfit I'd like her to wear? During the confirmation call, or should I have done that while setting up the appointment?

Lastly, any advice or tips on how to calm myself would be greatly appreciated. Thanks all!!

That's my first basic rule to give you. She is a professional, well reviewed and just tell her in you little before hand chat (usually when you both get to your incall there is a little chat prior to doing the "act") that not only are you a newbie but truely a "newbie".

As for the suggestion on the outfit, yes discuss that when you do the confirmation call but she may not have the outfit you are wanting. If she doesn't she might tell you what she does have or a nice touch would be to ask her to surprise you. The outfit's really don't stay on that long anyway..he..he. During this chat though DO NOT speak anything sexual to her as this could send up a red flag you are LE!!

Another biggie is just remember to breathe.

On your comment on popping too soon; in her reveiews does it say she offers mulitple pops? If she does then don't worry as she will give you another opportunity during the session. If her reviews doesn't say multiple pops you might ask her at the begging of your session if they will be offered.

Don't worry about being nervous. I'm to see a new lady in about 1 hour and I'm nervous!! It's part of the rush we get in this hobby and it's all good.

Good luck to you and let the rest of us know how you do!!....DB8

How do WE protect ourselves that they are not LE?

If you do your research and have VIP status where you can read the reviews then your chances for a lady being into a sting with LE is greatly reduced.

If the lady is well reviewed then on the last most updated posts click on the guy/guys who did the review. If he/they have written a lot of reviews on ladies and he has been a member a pretty long time then you are pretty safe.

Remember though that everyone in this process is always at risk a little. You do your homework then you reduce that risk.

The best bet to get into trouble these days with LE is to get a girl off of CL who has no reviews. If she isn't involved with LE there is a very good chance she will be at least a bait/switch and/or a very big let down on her sevices.

Before your first meeting:  Know the things that'll make the meeting go smoothly:

Arrive near the second call location a few minutes early to allow for traffic problems, then get a coffee down the street.  Don't hang around the door.  Call from your car exactly at the specified time.
 
Be freshly showered, shaved, use a toothbrush & mouth wash before arriving at her door.

Have the donation separate from your wallet...  I like a front pant pocket & be prepared to place it without comment according to her web site instructions.  Lacking those, place it on a dresser or table in plain view & don't look at it again.

I like to bring a small gift like a scented candle...  do not carry gifts in the open.  I hand off the candle & matches & invite the lady to "do the honors".  It kind of breaks the ice...  

Then relax...  
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If you want to request a particular outfit the time to do it is now, not a few hours before the appointment.  If she is already at her in call it will be too late for her to pack accordingly. Also, be aware that wardrobe requests are met with varying degrees of success. If you ask for a black dress and she has one she will wear it for you.  If she doesn't however she is not going to go buy one for you.  If you have a very specific request the gentlemanly thing to do is buy the outfit and present it to her as a gift.

Personally, on my first date with a new girl I wouldn't be making wardrobe requests.  I'm much more curios to see what the lady comes up with on her own.

As far as being quick on the draw, if you have booked with a well reviewed GFE provider this really shouldn't be a problem.  If you are up to it multiple shots on goal should be available...

Good luck, relax and have a great time.

I was in the same boat as you about 2 months ago and I'm 35...these guys on here all have been great help...do the homework and educate yourself...as for the meeting just go with the flow and let her lead you...don't be afraid to ask questions...just have fun and you'll havethe most amazing time... i did...good luck

Thank you very much!  Isn't it true though if you ask if they are affiliated with LE in anyway, they have to respond truthfully if they are?

ahead of time.  I would most certainly let her know you are "new to this" and if she is a true pro, she will do a great job in "leading you through" a great time.

Enjoy and be sure to let us know how it goes.

If you get to that point and you ask and they are then you are probably busted..just my .02

that's why VIP here and doing your homework should eliminate that happening.

NO, an undercover or decoy does NOT have to tell you they are LE.  If you are in a room with LE, you're already in deep doo-doo.  Doing your homework before hand (where you shop, selecting well reviewed providers) is the best way to avoid being in the room with LE.  
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