I still have some questions so providers are encouraged to answer. First question is how do i get a provider if most of them want references. I never done this before but would like too. But most providers want someone with references. Second question is that alot of providers want upscale men. I am a railroader not a business man. How do i fix that problem as well. Where can i go to look up some of the common terms used such as BDSM and so on. Sorry if this is so forth coming and demanding but i am just wanting to get into this without any complications on both ends. I live in Kansas CIty so if there is any local providers that could help me please answer back. I will take all the advice i can get from anyone on here though

For the common terms use the newbie manual or terms for acronmys at the top of the page.  

Upscale means you can afford the donation.

For references you can try joining a verification site like P411 or DateCheck.

Good luck.  Have fun.  Be safe.

Newbie Manual top right of this page.  See verification sites post a few above here.

about what you do for a living. You don't need to be a CEO, as long as you are a gentleman. Just be clean, and treat the ladies with respect, and your reputation will follow. As others have said, try joining one of the verification sites. That will help to get your first few dates. Then you will have some references to use in the future.

Good Luck