I still have some questions so providers are encouraged to answer. First question is how do i get a provider if most of them want references. I never done this before but would like too. But most providers want someone with references. Second question is that alot of providers want upscale men. I am a railroader not a business man. How do i fix that problem as well. Where can i go to look up some of the common terms used such as BDSM and so on. Sorry if this is so forth coming and demanding but i am just wanting to get into this without any complications on both ends. I live in Kansas CIty so if there is any local providers that could help me please answer back. I will take all the advice i can get from anyone on here though