I think if it's something you are self conscious about for your benefit it might be good to mention it when you arrive. Otherwise you may be distracted wondering what she is thinking the whole session instead of fully enjoying the experience.

...many years with no problems.  He doesn't mention it and nobody has ever said anything.  You may be self-conscious about it but others may not even notice it.

For those who don't know it's like having "shifty eyes" that move back and forth.  It also happens to people when they are drunk. That's why cops look into people's eyes when the stop them on suspicion of drunk driving. Cops will check for nystagmus and strabismus (cross-eyes).

Lasik surgery is now available for people with nystagmus.  Some surgeons also do an operation where the eye muscles are cut then sewn together again to reduce nystagmus.  You can PM me for details.

Based on my experiences with quality providers (in both intimate and not so intimate settings) they are there for one thing--to make sure you have a remarkable experience that will keep you coming back.  If you are self-conscious about it, then tell her if it will make you feel better, but the odds are that she'll never notice it anyway.  Like someone above me said, if you tell her then you won't have to worry about whether or not she notices it and you can focus on enjoying the experience.  Good luck.

If it makes you more comfortable, please mention it. Otherwise, if you are respectful, clean and generally nice guy, you will have no problems. I see a client who has the same issue, I did notice it but it didn't bother me because he  is great to be around. He actually mentioned it on our third or fourth session, by then I had forgotten completely about it, I enjoyed his company so much.

You should always share individual "traits" with a lady so she isn't shocked.

You could have a simple card that says what you want & simply hand it to her at the begining.  Make sure the print is BIG and EASY to read.

That way, you get your information across without having to worry about what you say or don't say.

Just a different idea.
Nothing wrong with talking about it either.

Re: delicate question

I've been diligently working on getting my first appointment for about three weeks now. Having had nystagmus all my life, I never even think about it unless someone brings it up.  It seems to me that on that glorious day of my first encounter it wil be obvious from my coke bottle bottom glasses that I merely have a vision problem, and I'm not a psycho or drunken old coot.  In other words, I ain't gonna worry about it