I'm a little confused about how to get what you would like from a provider if you can't talk about it.
I'm a newbie and I think I screwed up on my first provider who had screened me and we were going to set up a time together. After she screened me, she sent an email that said exactly this in it

"Act out your desires with me, for me, you are my center stage. (DISCRETE Gentlemen only) .

This info will be seen only by me, and the email erased immediately. I have many great reviews, and happy clients, and i carry myself , beyond reproach! if you have any questions or concerns, feel free to email me anytime. (No Illegal Services)"

So I sent her an email basically saying that I want to tell you what I want and that I have a special request. How should I describe it to you. Should I use acronyms or wait to see you and tell you my desire and if she wishes to for-full them to give her a little extra gift at the end? I told her that I'm a newbie and not a 100% familiar with the dos and don'ts. I never heard form her again.

On her site it says not to discuss things when you meet and that you will know the proper donation when we meet. So how and when the heck do you let a provider know what "I" would like? Do you just say when you meet "hey I've always had a fantasy to do this..." and if she just goes along with it you can give her the an extra tip at the end? Then I hear about up-selling. How does that play in here when the providers are trying to avoid the LE issue. What's confusing is I understand providers are trying to protect themselves from LE just as we hobbyist are, but there is something lost in translation that maybe has been posted here before but I haven't seen it.

CAN you use acronyms in an email to a provider? How and when do you say what you would like if you can't discuss it at any point so you know what to properly compensate a lady? If I want something special, I'm sure she would like to be compensated as such. I would like a lady to be prepared and know what I want when I arrive. SO, what IS the proper way to do so? Please help so I don't shoot myself in the foot again.

I had the exact same question and ran into the exact same problems.

the only thing I can figure is you meet her once and just do it normal.  then now that she is relatively confident your not LE you can ask in person at your 2nd encounter.

but like you I'm not experienced so its all speculation.

First of all, have you invested in VIP?

If not, you are doing yourself and the provider a disservice.  The reviews will give you an idea of what is available.

I agree that's its often best to start your first appointment with a lady with no expectation.  Since you are a newbie, she is probably taking a chance seeing you without references.  The two of you will be nervous.  Her, that she has done the right thing by agreeing to meet and that you are not LE.  You, because you are inexperienced in the hobby.  

If, after your appointment, you are interested in acting out a fantasy, or in a mediterranean tour, etc. either discuss it then (if you have time) or ask if you can email her more specifics now that she knows you better and trusts you.

If a lady is reluctant, after meeting you, to discuss other interests.. she probably does not wish to see you again.

Thank you guys and Sinful1. This clears it up for me big time and now I think I should have a much more better time hobbying after I implement these nuggets of wisdom.