time I had getting an answer to THAT question, was from a gal or European heritage.  After about 3 casual hints, she finally gave me a quote.

I do suspect that the OP was referring to the more common situation where the booker makes all the arrangements since the girl often speaks little or no English.  In my limited experience, the bookers have always been very upfront about "the gift" and I've never had to ask.  I might be suspicious of a booker (or agency) that makes the guy ask the question.  Indy gals are more hesitant to discuss details, especially if it's clear on the website.