I was just stood up by someone; how do I blacklist him so no one else wastes an entire day?

join www.nationalblacklist.com

not sure how that works since I work for an agency and I myself don't blacklist but that's the site to go for.

providerbuzz.com and dangerzone411.com are two other major blacklisting/alert sites for ladies. You can also post his info in the Providers Only section here.

-- Modified on 4/5/2009 9:02:57 PM

Just took a look at your ad  and reviews. Awsome baby! 9's and 10's and with a body and looks to kill.  Off  with his Head!!!!
Some guys can't appreciate whats too good for em....

Any lady that would do that for ONE NS is off my list to see.   Glad you showed your true colors, and we can AVOID you!

I know this may not be the most warm and fuzzy response, but I think it needs to be asked.  Did you try to contact your client to see if he had a reasonable explanation for why he did not show?

Hobbyists are constantly posting about the etiquette of how to handle a NCNS from a provider.  The overwhelmingly majority of people seem to respond by asking if they gave the provider a chance to explain the situation.  Then the general consensus is split on how to handle the issue if contact was attempted and there was no response or an inadequate excuse was given.  Some people will say, "Out her on your local board."  Some responses will be along the lines of, "It happens.  Forget it and move on."

Unless there is far more to your own situation than what you offered in your post, you seem to be saying that you want to blacklist a client for a single NCNS without giving him the chance to explain.  This is the equivalent of being exiled from this little community.

Seems to me that hobbyists should be given the same consideration as providers in these cases.

Don't get me wrong, a NCNS without a real excuse is extremely rude.  It also can result in loss of time and revenue for a provider.  I'm just saying that there shouldn't be a double standard here.

Disclaimer:  I have never been NCNS'ed, so I may be on here next week screaming about how I was wronged and I want retribution.  

As others have said: unless there is something else going on here, a single case of NCNS is not worthy of blacklisting.

As many have said, people have lives outside this community.  Perhaps something came up with his real life that resulted in him not being able to call or email or contact you.

Furthermore, if you wasted an entire day, something is wrong.

Methinks that there is more to this story than simply someone who "stood you up"

in a different way on this particular board.  You don't have to be nice, but you shouldn't be harsh.

If she is a newbie, educate her on WHY one NCNS may not be sufficient for blacklisting instead of just assuming that she already knows and attacking her.

If you can't stop throwing sand, get out of the sandbox.

I have to ask why you wasted an entire day?  Did you book a multi-hour with a NEWBIE?  I'm sorry that is poor practice on your part.  

I'm not saying "forgive & forget" but I don't think it's appropriate to blacklist across the entire hobby for 1 NCNS.  He has blown it with you & YOU will never see him now.  Fine.
Maybe a lesser caution could be applied.    

RUDE?  Hell, yes.  
I've had to cancel at the last minute when roads became impassible because of weather.  I called as soon as I could & we rescheduled...  Had a great time the very next day!)
People (both clients & providers) have been in accidents & was not possible to contact immediately.  
Family emergencies can happen too.  Again, on both sides.  I had a session with a very Fav Lady interupted by a family emergency...  the lady knew from the ring tone it was a problem & took the call.  I tried to leave to give her some privacy but she told me "don't you leave!"  I made use of her bathroom.  She was on the phone 10 minutes & another half hour trying to calm down...  we resumed our session at her insistance but her head really wasn't in it.  How do you review a session like that?  Should I write her a crappy review?  I have seen her since & am planning a visit in the near future.

He should be contacting you & apologizing.  If you've not heard from him in 48 hours you should try to contact him.  A simple, "Where were you?"  In either case, his response (or lack of) should be noted.  

In a perfect world, we would always respect each other.  In the real world, we need to consider all possibilities before we vent our hurt & anger.
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For starters, I believe blacklist is not for ns.  Its for thieves, abusers, and extreme sexually acts not agreed to. I had a few no shows when I was married, it not like I could call with the wife right there, it happens

-- Modified on 4/6/2009 9:07:50 AM

I have a question Sunny, did you screen this gentleman? Do you know who he has seen before, and if there was any problems with prior sessions? What are your screening methods? I know that screening will not eliminate this kind of crap, but it will reduce the chances of it happening.

NCNS are serious for both the provider and the hobbyist and are totally unacceptable!

I've been NCNS'd, spend money on a hotel room, waited for hours. It sucked, majorly, but I kept it to  myself, because life happens.

Your response is dead-on.  If I'd informed every hobbyist in Las Vegas about any lady that didn't show, the market would be on it's ear.  Don't get me wrong, you look forward to getting together and then poof, it doesn't happen.  I know that it really pisses me off, but life DOES go on.  In some cases, the lady makes it up.  Other times, they don't.

Both sides need to do their best to hold up their end of the deal, and make every effort to inform the other party if plans change.  That said, it probably doesn't make sense to write off any guy without more to the story than a no-show.

As previous posts have indicated, blacklisting it probably to harsh. As I would tell a hobbyist, make a note in your diary, andjust move on

Within most blacklist sites there are subsections for NCNS. I know a few ladies, myself included do save NCNS client information so we are not fooled again. Most of the time clients are only blacklisted for larger issues

I don't know about adding a one time NCNS to any list but there would be some circumstances that would make it seem more appropriate.

There is typically separate section for "time wasters" in blacklisting.  And the typical blacklist isn't a list of just names... the reason is added to the list in detail.  So a provider can look and see that he NCNS one time and take a chance - he's not banned from the hobby by any means.  Now if his one NCNS turns into 3 and so on, that is a problem and not an uncommon one.  Some folks do this over and over again as though for entertainment.  

-- Modified on 4/7/2009 7:14:16 PM

And do you think he should "make it up" to her for her loss of income and time spent getting ready for him if she ever hears from him again that is. IMHO if a client disrespects my time that much and does not call with a decent explanation I will place on a blacklist for timewasting/ncns. An explanation and a re-schedule...no list. Do I expect him to make it up to me...no as I will never make it up to a client...crap happens but there should always be the courtesy of communication and an explanation/apology on both sides.