Oh, you're probably right. I was absolutely certain I didn't mention anything about sex. I didn't even realize it until just now. Now I feel like a complete idiot. I don't know if she'll give me a second chance, probably not. At least now I know.
So this is my first time trying to make an appointment. This specific provider mentioned she was not newbie friendly, but I told her I'd be willing to pay extra. Here's how the convo went:
ME: Hi I saw you on Ter, I know you don't accept newbies, but I am really interested. I'd be willing to pay you extra for your time.
HER: Hi ***, what are you looking for? If that's the case we would have to meet before and see if it would work out.
HER: What is your age/background and what is it you're looking for?
ME: I am 21 /student and I am looking for full service.
I responded her last message a week later because I didn't receive it until now. Now it's been a few hours and no reply from her. It sucks because her reviews were great and I really was interested with her. Did I do something wrong?
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Offering to pay extra was unnecessary & might make her suspicious. It might set you up as a "Mark" to be taken, hopefully she's not so inclined.
Ordinarily, any mention of sex acts is a no no... talk of money and sex equals prostitution. If one of you were LE, they'd have everything needed to convict. But she asked you... so maybe she'll not bail on you.
You can't expect an instant response... it might be a day or even 2 before she gets back to you. If she doesn't, you can try again... in case it went to her spam folder.
DO ask her what she needs for screening? And suggest a day and possible time you'd like to see her so she knows you are serious, not a time waster.
If your age is too close to her own... a lot of gals don't like that.
Rather than offer extra... maybe try to book 2 hours which guarentees more money but allows you more time to get aquainted.
If she doesn't reply, move on to someone else. IT's not a good idea to get your mind set on a "perfect" provider... this isn't match . com. Guy seldom see "just one" perfect provider. May I caution you.? It is very easy to fall for a provider who you have great sex with.
I'd actually recommend starting with Miss Close Enough... a 30ish provider who is more newbie friendly.
Offering to pay extra was unnecessary & might make her suspicious. It might set you up as a "Mark" to be taken, hopefully she's not so inclined.
Ordinarily, any mention of sex acts is a no no... talk of money and sex equals prostitution. If one of you were LE, they'd have everything needed to convict. But she asked you... so maybe she'll not bail on you.
You can't expect an instant response... it might be a day or even 2 before she gets back to you. If she doesn't, you can try again... in case it went to her spam folder.
DO ask her what she needs for screening? And suggest a day and possible time you'd like to see her so she knows you are serious, not a time waster.
If your age is too close to her own... a lot of gals don't like that.
Rather than offer extra... maybe try to book 2 hours which guarentees more money but allows you more time to get aquainted.
If she doesn't reply, move on to someone else. IT's not a good idea to get your mind set on a "perfect" provider... this isn't match . com. Guy seldom see "just one" perfect provider. May I caution you.? It is very easy to fall for a provider who you have great sex with.
I'd actually recommend starting with Miss Close Enough... a 30ish provider who is more newbie friendly.
...saying that you wanted sex. That’s a big no no.
Mistake no 2: Offering her more money. Hobbyists don’t offer more money; they offer less money. A cop would offer more money because she has agreed to full service in advance, so his case will be easier to make if he can get her to meet him.
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So what would be another way to let her know that I'm serious any really interested? Do I just leave her a large tip?
1. Respect and follow her requirements and guidelines (preferred contact methods, screening, rates, who she will and won’t see, etc). This shows that you’ve done your homework and are serious about seeing her. If her prices are to high, her screening methods make you to uncomfortable or you don’t match what she’s looking for (e.g., she’s not newbie friendly), then just move on.
2. When you contact her to make an appointment, be specific about what you want (within the excepted hobby vernacular, of course). Example: “I’ve read your reviews and am very interested in seeing you; how about a 1 hour incall this Sunday at 2pm?”
Once you’ve seen a particular Provider for the first time, everything becomes much more relaxed and making appointments with her becomes routine.
“what are you looking for?” she was probably asking whether you were looking for an incall or outcall and for how long - not what specific service you wanted; if you’ve studied her TER and P411 profiles, personal ad site and read her reviews, then you would already know what services she offers and her rates (I’d assume the rates listed on her personal site or P411 are the correct ones; the ones on TER profiles are sometimes out of date).
Thus, setting up an appointment would look something like: “Hi, I’d really like to see you; how does a 2 hour incall tomorrow night sound?” or “how about we spend a couple of hours at your place?” if you wanna be surreptitious. And then once things are setup, you’d arrive at the place on the agreed upon date and time with the proper donation. If she offers different services at different rates (less for body to body message, more for full service, etc.) then just bring the proper amount for the service you want.
She was also apparently asking for a Meet & Greet to size you up; to get a feel for you - probably because she doesn’t normally see newbies.
Oh, you're probably right. I was absolutely certain I didn't mention anything about sex. I didn't even realize it until just now. Now I feel like a complete idiot. I don't know if she'll give me a second chance, probably not. At least now I know.
Also when she asked for my background, was she talking about my occupation or my race?
That’s... actually a good question. I hadn’t thought of it like that until you asked.
I’d hazard to guess that she was asking for your racial background; I don’t think many ladies care about a given Client’s occupation, but - like it or not - for many race is an issue (thus, the infamous “No AA” on many a lady’s ad site). You’ll notice tags concerning it on P411 as well.
I guess if it comes up again, either ask her what she means or give her both answers?
You’re not an idiot, you’re just new - and I don’t wanna sound like some old pro at this either; I started back in October and have only seen two Providers (and am really only seeing my ATF at the moment).
As for second chances, just see some newbie-friendly ladies and get 2 or 3 okays and then try her again. Just contact her through TER’s or P411s PM (or the e-mail listed on her personal ad site, if any) and politely explain that you were new to hobby when you first got in touch with her.
Maybe she’ll get back with you, but if she doesn’t, hey - lesson learned.
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Look. You have to understand...this is our safety...I know for me and many others money is the secondary factor. Safety with our clients should be #1. I don't want myself or any hobbyist in trouble, next time don't talk about services, money ...instead mention an extra hour like stated above. Eveyone has a different screening process but make it easy on yourself and find someone who will work with you. After a week...I wouldn't message you back either,it's suspicious.
you do understand what that means? Why would you still contact her. If you’re going to be successful in this little world, you’ll need to learn how to follow directions from providers.
I would have not even responded.
-Pay extra (red flag)
-student (cant verify work(
-full service (mention $$ is NEVER OK).
Yes - heed the ladies.
My ATF told me about the time she almost got busted; her and 2 or 3 of her friends were getting ready to do an outcall at locale hotel/motel, but something seemed off to her. She texted the “client” that she would need $60 for cab fare (which would have been exorbitant to say the least); to which they responded “yeah, sure - problem”.
She immediately backed out and warned her friends not to go, but they went anyway. And, well... you already know the outcome of /this/ little story; her friends walked into the loving arms of LE.
But yes; the smart ladies screen and communicate in a certain way for their own safety.
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A couple of newbie pointers... Get a separate phone like a tracfone or use an app... register the phone to a bogus name, made up address not linked to your id. Pay with cash. Might as well start off right.
Presumably you don't have a GF or SO yet but you might need to erase your activities sometime. A TF & service cards costs ~100 a year. It's cheap insurance.
One last thing. This is a secret world. Keep your secrets to yourself. Only someplace like TER can we talk about these things. You don't ever want to have someone have power over you... Imagine your best buddty gets drunk... maybe on your wedding day... Toasts "Ana the girl he gave up hookers for!"
We'll tell you the secret handshake later.