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ashleysgfe See my TER Reviews 2939 reads
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1 / 24

Fairly new to this hobby, I'm completely fascinated by it. Do any providers/hobbyists have any tips on what they or their providers have done to make the overall experience better? Example: having mints out for the hobbyists. Just trying to improve every way I can!

harborview 10 Reviews 1186 reads
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2 / 24

I recall a date early in my hobby life...   the gal had a chair set out to recieve my clothes.  It was a really nice touch.  Another had a small basket on the dresser, beside the chair for keys, phones &  change so they'd not be misplaced.  
A warm face cloth to clean a guy up after.  Wipes are so cold & tacky.

JackDunphy 874 reads
posted
3 / 24

1) have his fav drink, be it alcoholic or not, waiting

2) ask him how he would like to see you dressed

3) take him on time, and if for some reason you can't, communicate this early and give updates so he isn't left wondering

4) make sure the room is cleaned up with no reminders of the guy just before him.  

5) send him a nice thank you email afterwards (if you would see him again, of course)

6) if you are doing outcall, especially for a longer session, don't come empty handed. Bring something. Anything. A bottle of wine is fine. Few ladies do this and many guys here love the "connection" they get by a gal who goes the extra step.

Demcc3 27 Reviews 803 reads
posted
4 / 24

I like the idea of a  basket as mentioned above.  I've usually put my clothes on a chair or on a small table but rarely on the floor.

I have been with provider's who will have bottled water available.  One girl last summer asked me to pick up a six pack of a certain type of beer then she texted me while I was en route to change her mind.

D.

1192967 45 Reviews 630 reads
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5 / 24
harborview 10 Reviews 798 reads
posted
6 / 24

coffee, tea or soft drink which is fine for a hour or less.  A multi hour, light alcohol would be ok but ask first...  some guys & gals might not take it.  
I like to bring a fruity jar candle but have arrived to find other candles lit...   I like having soft soap & a clean towel for handwashing.  (He wants to put his fingers where?)  & have brought them myself & left them.  
Be ready with approach instructions...   He should be given instructions to a designated "call point"...  maybe a near by intersection or hotel entrace...   have detailed instructions from there.  Say he has to come in the hotel entrance...  walk by the front desk (will be on your right), straight ahead, elevator to your left.  That keeps him from fumbling the approach & looking dumb.

sasha2cute See my TER Reviews 834 reads
posted
7 / 24

Sorry boys. You giving advice to a newbie provider on this question it's like a guy telling women what to expect on the third trimester of their pregnancy. Just my 0.02C

Happy V day.

JackDunphy 571 reads
posted
8 / 24

The guys are the clients, Sash. What well run biz doesn't check in with what their clients needs/wants? She also specifically asked the guys our thoughts.

Who better to tell her what guys actually want then the guys themsleves?

You lost me here.

SoftlySarah See my TER Reviews 479 reads
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9 / 24

and it's always good to get a variety of opinions. I don't think I would disagree with anything written. I'll only add music (choose something inoffensive or inquire about musical tastes beforehand), and to know your limits in terms of boundaries. Don't be tempted to do something you're not OK with just to make money- you won't like yourself for doing it and the person you're with will sense that you're uncomfortable (unless they're arseholes who don't give a sh*t and are persuading you to do something you don't want to). And very important- follow your intuition. It's your best friend- both for keeping you safe and for making your friends happy. :) Oh- and be as warm and welcoming as you can when you meet someone for the first time-put them at ease. Being comfortable with yourself will help you with that, so if you are already a confident lady, you'll do fine.  

Lastly- try to get into the PO board as soon as you can. There are wonderful and wise people there. :)

sasha2cute See my TER Reviews 624 reads
posted
10 / 24

When a guy gives a provider a tip. It's more about what they like personally or think it's appropriate. Like someone mentioning about the hot cloths instead of a wet wipe because it's cold and "tacky". What's wrong with that advice? Well... He's not the one calling the front desk asking for cloths over and over. One needs to be discrete. That is merely one instance where hearing advice from a guy doesn't really help. She doesn't need to raise red flags, and one wet wipe is just as good, and just because someone thinks it's tacky, doesn't mean that's not the best way to do it.  

So what I'm saying is. Providers can give her better insights on this particular question. Now I love advice from both providers and hobbyists. I just think that for this question...we should let providers help her. Just my 0.02.

keystonekid 114 Reviews 552 reads
posted
11 / 24

away) used to keep a small crock pot type appliance on the end table which was filled with warm washcloths. A very nice touch.

Disagree with your "wet wipe is just as good".

keystonekid 114 Reviews 452 reads
posted
12 / 24

if either the provider or the guy is loud when having an orgasm(s).

Some providers point the speaker towards the door so anyone walking by will hear music instead of playtime sounds.

GGxo See my TER Reviews 474 reads
posted
13 / 24

be yourself. Be authentic, genuine and do what comes naturally for you, and I'm quite sure you will be a huge success here. All the lil details do matter, but that's the most important one IMO.  

Gia xo

1192967 45 Reviews 450 reads
posted
14 / 24

...to her in call location when it was a hotel room. It's about the level of service the lady wants to provide. She is free to take our advice or not. She's free to modify it if she chooses. But she does need to hear what we have to say. Especially when she asked us for our thoughts.

If a provider I see hands me a wet wipe I'm not going to be happy. Your "he's not the one calling the front desk for cloths over and over" argument won't hold water. She would have the same situation with towels. Is she going to give him a napkin to dry off with after the shower?

I agree there are things a provider would be the best source for advice. However there are situations where the clients would be the best source. Then there are things where either would work.

Tasha I think you got this one wrong.

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SCBodyRub 13 Reviews 490 reads
posted
16 / 24

Yes, I have only had one provider give directions from when you walk into the hotel.

It makes me feel I'm less obvious vice looking around for the hotel, especially if my meanderings take me past the desk twice.
Being able to walk into a hotel and act like it's not your first time there or you are a guest lessens my anxiety

SCBodyRub 13 Reviews 423 reads
posted
17 / 24

I saw her stack of clean sheets, and they did not match the hotel sheets, she says she asked for room wit double beds because she has that size ... Feels better then my vision of how many clients have been on that duvet. I don't care if it's pulled tight. This same provider has also brought a bunch of beach towels.

Now another provider I have seen, says the manager knows her profession and she frequently goes to the front desk to refresh her wash cloths

harborview 10 Reviews 380 reads
posted
18 / 24

Let me add a +1 to the music.  It's easy today to have a music play lists...  of different styles...  and a bonus as you learn them you'll have a hint how the time is progressing.  Early in my hobby life, a gal did indeed have a "boom box" aimed toward the door where it was quite a bit louder but only a nice background level at the bed.    

I used to joke with one gal that she must have had a huge laundry at her incall.  Besides the face clothes & hand towels...  there were a fresh towels for her massage table & couple of bath towels (we always showered together before I left)

floyd1039 10 Reviews 361 reads
posted
19 / 24

I have visited one provider that brings everything with her to her in call. Fresh bed linens, towels and wash cloths and an assortment of sample size soaps and body wash. Granted that she does not fly cross country but I felt like the extra mile had been traveled.

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 568 reads
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20 / 24

Posted By: ashleysgfe
Fairly new to this hobby, I'm completely fascinated by it. Do any providers/hobbyists have any tips on what they or their providers have done to make the overall experience better? Example: having mints out for the hobbyists. Just trying to improve every way I can!

WCedie See my TER Reviews 314 reads
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21 / 24
480funguy 400 reads
posted
22 / 24

I see this topic isn't too old. If any are still reading, here's some thoughts. Not to beat a dead horse, but having the provider use a warm wet cloth to clean up is a really nice touch that can influence your view of the entire session.  

I'm a rather new hobbyist, (first board post here) seen 7-8 providers. The one I saw last night was the first to not either run a cloth under the faucet to warm it or pull one out of a crock pot like keystone mentioned, and clean me up herself. After I popped, she stepped into the bathroom to freshen up, pretty standard. I expected her to return with a cloth but she came in and handed me a wad of toilet paper and a roll of paper towels and I'm laying there in front of her cleaning myself off. Made me feel like a kid or something and like we had never had a chance of having a connection.

I think a wet wipe or baby wipe or whatever would've felt the same.

TheApe 234 reads
posted
23 / 24

I bring this up because I have had some awkward experiences with this recently.  I have seen providers who are well reviewed and had nice websites but when I saw them, they simply did not smell good.  Either they need some deodorant or they did not wash their anus properly.   I think some ladies might get a bit casual about the hygiene thing and do not bring their "A" game.  Meanwhile, I am very particular about making sure I am clean and smelling good everywhere.  Please do not slack off.

Layonaisthe1 See my TER Reviews 280 reads
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24 / 24

now im questioning whether or not to ditch the we wipes ... lol

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