I hope this is the right place to post this, since it is a very specific question. My wife and I are thinking about experimenting with a third, and we've recently been talking about voyeur fantasies. Basically we are looking for a well-reviewed, professional female provider to watch us.

This kind of thing doesn't seem to get discussed to much, almost never in reviews. So...at what point in contacting a provider should I specify what we're interested in? Can you ever assume a situation like that is on the menu? Or are there ways to search for providers who enjoy couples?

Thanks for the help --

including if the provider sees couples. However, as long as you don't mention sex, I would think the question, "do you entertain couples" would not be offensive. Just don't mention anything about sex or your voyeur fantasies. The provider will probably want to speak to your wife before she see's both of you. Also include your wife in the selection of the provider you wish to see.

You didn't mention where you are, Las Vegas has quite a few providers who see couples. Check the escort's web site that you are interested in seeing . It will usually have a section for "couples"  Also you can do an ISO post on the national board, and if you're local mod is good guy, he'll probably let an ISO post go on the regional board.

Check the TER search review feature for whether or not you can search by this feature. This is not an uncommon requests, there are a number of couples reviews. Good luck

Its usually listed in their personal website, along with their rates. I see it all the time, and its not as infrequent as you may thing. However, most of the times, the third party is usually participating. For your case, I wouldn't see a problem with your request, since the third party (i.e. the provider) is only observing.

Where do I see theses ads? Well, I usually look at the regional ad boards, and there, you can see their profile and their personal website. It will state the rate, and everything you need to make the appointment.

It's just like setting up any other appointments. You may need verifications from other providers or agencies, P411, whitelisting, or something of that nature. Once you have set that in place, then I would recommend stating your request over email if possible. Simply state, I would like to book the 1 hour couple's rate. Then you might want to add, its with another women, and you are requested for observation only.

There are other options other there, I have only given you one. Hopefully some other hobbyist view this and reply with other options. Good luck.

Use the search feature, first, located your city, then possibly try the "two girl action" or "more than one guy", or something similar. There should be plenty of providers out there that should cater to your needs.

You just need to follow the other great advice in this thread. I would add that the scenario you describe sounds terrifically hot. And that you are one lucky dude, to have a partner who is experimental.

Here is my hesitation when it comes to couples, and why I run them through a probing battery of questions when I get a request: Often it is the guy who actually has this fantasy. No big deal if the lady is of the "Hmm, it sounds like it might be hot for me, and it certainly could be hot for my guy, so maybe it's worth a try" variety. But if she is of the "He just wants to get off, this has nothing to do with me and my needs! I feel trapped because I feel if I say NO he will eventually wander off, if I say YES I feel manipulated" variety, it means potential drama for me to handle. I'm sure you see what I'm talking about.

Of course there are a ton of variations on the theme (ie: She thought up the idea, you LOVE the idea, and you're good to go!). But it all comes down to assessing the stability and health of the relationship between the two of you. You two should do this, because if you just launch off into the experience, you may get a nasty surprise. Emotions have a way of erupting at inopportune times.

Variety "C":

Thanks, Jillian - great advice, and we are definitely making the effort to be open and communicative about all this stuff. And we are absolutely keen to the emotional aspect of that and negotiating any concerns as they come up. But your advice to make sure any drama doesn't involve the provider is well taken. Thanks.