I've been through a couple different providers that offered BBBJ. Each time they perform, they wrap their mouth around your junk and just move up and down repeatedly, minimal tongue, and only their lips touching. What I've always been interested in is those BBBJ on adult videos where they use alot of tongue, like licking a Popsicle. I'ts wet and they kiss the thing from time to time. Has anyone gotten those type of BBBJs before? Is this something I can ask for or is the standard BBBJ just the bare lips rubbing. Any advice or experience would be much appreciated..

Try explaining to your partner what you are looking for.  Hell, take a video clip to show her what you want on your smartphone if you have one.  

Open honest communication is the best thing you can do to ensure your enjoyment.

Seek and ye shall find.

A few times, I've had a new girl treat my dick like some delicacy at a dinner party. Apparently, some guys out there think it's gross for them not to, so they aren't sure unless you tell them. I just tell them I don't care about manners, I like it sloppy and noisy with lots of eye contact, etc. And that's what I get.

honey...you gotta find a chick who KNOWS how to suck a good stick
I always get complimented on my tongue technique...