Hello again,  m I was wondering, it seems many providers do their own screening so is p411/datecheck really necessary? Or is it part of the process?    Thank you,  Blueeyes
Keep in mind, you were all new once too.  Be gentle..lol

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It does make screenig easier for members on both sides. But only you can decide if it is worth the cost to you. Things to consider: How often do you plan to hobby? Are you always going to have current references? Or are you willing to give out your personal info every time?

Security, privacy, respect and safety are paramount to all parties. We plan on hobbying at very least bi-monthly.   I understand your point and it's well taken. We were just wondering if professional verification is in conjunction or will eliminate the need of private screening.  Both of which I personally don't have  issues. We were just trying to better understand the intrinsic value of a third party service.     Thank you for your input.  .

In my experience, joining a screening site will open doors for you that you may not get through if you don't join.

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New York City.

A lot of the ladies in NYC are on both so you would probably be OK with either.
Personally, I am only on Date-Check so I don't know as much about P4111.
When I meet a lady for the first time I ask her if she can verify me on Date-Check.
Pretty soon you will have several "references." It makes screening easier and quicker later on.
Now when I contact a lady for the first time at most they check my Date-check profile and TER ID.
They don't bother to email my provider references (they are on my Date-check profile anyway).

because HONESTLY? most if not almost all of the clients in the Bay Area are NOT preferred411 or date check members.  

Now, some are, but it is not used as much out here... so I do give it as a option...  

Ok so one of the reasons I ADORE TER clients, is they provide anything I need to feel safe..

However on the site that will not be named, the hobbyists are all anti-references, anti-screening...  

I would say back in 01-04 the clients there would give you anything you needed about 60-70perecent of the time...  

NOW, it is more like 25-30 percent!  

 
SO MANY of us who have no other option than be creative, or be broke, lol ..

Also even if you get references, and either you will not get so much a "no sorry I dont know, or dont provide references"

Or they will be snotty, rude etc...
I have heard some providers call the guy and yell at him or lowball you...  

So like I said, we had to be creative...  
I will check references if they have and provide them. or the verification sites  

lol  

But I have alternate ways to screen, you can email you vs post it lol  

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Though we do additional screening, some providers will just accept a guy as long as Gina has verified him. Also, many providers ONLY book with P411 clients, so if you're not on there, you won't even have access to those providers. P411 is often used for more than screening, but as a PRIVATE network for meeting gentlemen. Many providers will not even have a visible profile to anyone but members, so IMO it's a good move to join.