I am new to the hobby, and there are no providers in my area, I travel about 6 times a year to areas where there are so I plan very far in advance.  My question has to do with overnights.  I hate to eat and sleep alone. I have had one overnight and I was disappointed.  We had a very late dinner, went back and had only one go around (she has a day job) and she sleep on her side of the bed and I sleep on mine. before I go on, let me tell you that this was the third time I saw her, and I felt we had made a connection. Now don't get me wrong, I was not expecting a night full of shagging, but I am slow to reload so I felt this might be a good alternative. I really did not mind spending it for some real quality cuddling, and a few cups.
she is very sweet and does offer DFK, but the whole experience seemed to lack ( not to mention very pricey for what I got) so is this the standard, Ladies feel free to chime in.  should I just suck it up and bring a teddy bear to sleep with....

Did you know she had a day job and needed to get up for work in the am BEFORE you booked your appointment? If you did you only have yourself to blame as I would not want to be up at 3am fucking someone when I had to go to work. If you didn't know then bad on her part and she should have planned things to start a little earlier or wait until it wasn't a school night. Was there an option on how late dinner was?

You two should have communicated more about this before the event. Overnights do include sleep for the lady and more than a couple of hours just so as you know for next time. Since you know your own body, you should think about when to start things if you take forever to re-load.

Take a teddy bear...it's more reliable.

but I've never been turned down in the snuggling department.

Did you try, or even ask?

Did you get a wake up call?  That's a pretty standard offer with overnights, and plenty enough for me at age 55.

Hello,

Aww, it sounds like somthing is missing.chemistry, passion, the appreciation of having a gentlmen's naked body touching her's or the soft touches throughout the night that arouse and satisfy each other.

 Don't give up, you'll find a sensual woman. A good indication maybe when you speak to her over the phone tell her what you're looking for and listen to her tone and how she responses. Also when you meet is she a woman the likes to touch, hold hands, run her hands through your hair, softly caress your face?

Pacing during a longer date is a mutual responsibility, but it IS your job to either take the lead, OR communicate how you envision things happening, as far as number of cups or time frame, so that she can plan accordingly. Often the gal will clarify her expectations as well. For example, I require 6 hours out of twelve for sleep during a 12 hour overnight. If it is a 24-hour date, I require at least 8. My site clearly states this. For me personally, I don't feel or perform my best on too little sleep. So, you are right to assume that she will need some sleep. Every gal is different- I think you need to communicate your expectations when planing the date so you both feel satisfied with the arrangement. However, I personally do assume that one to three cups will be on the menu that evening, with a quickie in the a.m. as well is time allows, so I see why you were frustrated by only one round- I agree that the point of overnights, among other things, is to allow a more natural and leisurely pace for sex, with plenty or recovery time and no timeline/pressure.

Talk to her about it!

Best of luck!~

XoXo
Marea

I haven't done an overnight yet, but I'm planning to in the future.  I will definitely talk with the lady that I'm going to do the overnight with about what we plan to do  with our night. For me, the overnight will be a huge event, and I want to  make sure that she and I are on the same page regarding our expectations for the evening.

I think it's only fair to both parties that there is a general understanding about how the evening will go.  We won't have a minute-by-minute agenda or anything like that, of course, but we'll have talked about the evening probably several times in advance about the details.

Runningman

Of course all ladies are different...
While enjoying an overnight with a friend I like to have "a go" before we leave for our evening out,another upon our return, and one more to wake us up....I love to cuddle while sleeping..But LET ME SLEEP!

While I've neither had the pleasure of seeing Tawney or experiencing an overnight with anyone, your "formula" is exactly what I would have in mind.  I would add a walk along the beach between our return from dinner and "dessert in the room".