So if you can get verified by a provider, they will pass screening which I'm fine with because I don't want to disclose a lot of information, but how do you pay for membership? What's the safest way to do this or what way do you feel comfortable doing this?

How you pay should not make a difference. If you don't have references, your personal info. is REQUIRED to get on those sites, so may as well pay however you want, provided your wife does not have access to your credit card bill. Most transactions show up as something incognito, so it's not like they are going to know what it is about.

How you pay for hobby activities is something you need to seriously work out if you have SO to worry about.  Prepaid credit card is an option (green dot?).

P411 takes Western Union as well as cash or money orders.  I expect DC has alternate billing options as well.

JB

Most every site I know of, allows that. You buy them for a buck at a 7/11 or wherever money orders are sold, and only fill in your username and the company it is for. No trace, no issues. Green Dot works the same way on your end, but the other end must have an account set up to receive funds. All you do is buy the card, load it, and send them the numbers on the back. No need for YOU to register anything. The cards are about 4.95 at Walgreens or CVS.

Don't you have to put your name on those though? I've never used a money order before. And when you sign up on Date-Check (if you have a reference) do you have to give your name? Thanks for replying.

I signed up for p411 about three months ago and tried to pay via WU money order.  WU wanted my name, address, phone, etc anyway.  I don't have an SO at the moment, so I ended up just putting it on a card.  Didn't try green dot or anything else.

That is only in the event it would be lost or stolen, and you would have to have the receipt to get your money back. You put your USERNAME on the envelope, not the actual order. Leave it blank, and tell them who you are in a note inside

The ones you buy IN PERSON for a dollar, do not require you to fill out a thing. Again, that is only for protection against theft or it being lost in the mail. If you WIRE money from western union, totally different thing and different requirements. You have to MAIL the one I am talking about in to P411 or whomever. You can also get a walmart money order, and that works the same way. Wiring money and sending a money order are two entirely different things. Same goes with the Postal Service money orders...I had a dummy put "London Rayne" on one, as if I could cash it lol.

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Yes, you will have to provide personal info to any verification service.  And they will verify it (its what they do!).

From a client perspective, their business depends primarily on two things...verifying you are who you say you are, and keeping your personal info safe and secure.  The verification is so providers can be comfortable that you are not law enforcement or a dangerous person.  Keeping your info private is so you are comfortable doing business with them.

Strongly recommend you get verified...it will make setting appointments WAY easier.  Pretty much any provider that is more than just a backpage girl will require some sort of verification.

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The following is from the p411 site:

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Western Union  

A payment can be anonymously made at any Western Union counter for a $12.95 transaction fee, and we will receive the funds immediately. This information will appear again, with all details needed for payment.

Money Order  

Money Orders are accepted, however we are unable to accept USPS money orders. Please note that it can take up to 14 days to arrive and be deposited. This information will appear again, with all details needed for payment, at the end of the registration.
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They actually updated the language of the first chunk...maybe even as a result of my note to them on the topic.  The first method used to be called the "Blue Form".

http://www.payment-solutions.com/quickpay_form.html

Was supposed to be anonymous....but, it was not.  To London's point....it was the wrong type of MO.  I still don't think WU will let you send this anonymously.  I did attempt to do it in person.  It was either a case of that location not supporting the method or stupidity (wu attendant, mine, or both).  

If time is not an issue....I agree that the second method, the  el cheapo snail mail version is the way to go for anonymity

I met a provider who automatically put me in for a free 3 month membership. That's how I joined date-check. Right before my 3 months expired I bought a life-time membership.

I am talking about a money order being mailed without putting your real name on it. Honey, I have been doing this for 10 YEARS, and never once put my name on a money order I was sending. You make it out the THE COMPANY you are paying or whatever their 3rd party payer site is, and you sign and print ANY name you wish. You are filling out forms, and the like, and that is not how a money order is mailed or bought. Go to Winn Dixie, go to Western Union, tell them you want a money ORDER for x amount, and wait. In 30 seconds, they are going to come back with a single money order for the amount you want, and that's IT! If you have to fill out some form, you are not getting what I am talking about.  

You said you tried to SEND money in person at WU...no, this is a piece of paper that you mail. Gina's thing is a money transfer/wire because they get the funds asap. That, you need real info. to do. That is why you are under the impression you must fill something out. Wiring money is like that, but that's not what I am talking about. I am talking about the mail in option Gina lists, and yes it is totally anonymous.

If the site like P411 is asking you to put your real name on it, well can't help you there. I am saying WU does not, and has not ever required the buyer/sender of a money order to fill anything out.  You are talking about what must be done to CASH the thing, and yes all banks will want an ID to prove you are the person it is made out to. I've actually signed "Bugs Bunny" before when sending one, but to cash one I had to use my real name.

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LR, if you read my note...i'm actually agreeing with you

I even actually say "To London's point....it was the wrong type of MO."

I'm pointing out that the verification sites might say one thing...but there are other ways that are anonymous is all.  Just sharing info so that ppl can avoid the mistakes others have made is all.  

Man...don't harsh on my LR buzz.  I want to keep on loving you Baby (that is the approved term I'm allowed to use right?)

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I really need to stop cursing so much in print lol. I thought you were confused between the money wire and the money order, because many are and I did not want someone to think that what I am suggesting requires personal info. I would never suggest that ha ha.

Nothing but love LR can't wait to see you next time I'm in the big easy

The lifetime membership to DC is only around $125, good bargain IMHO.  P411 is pricier, but also very reputable.  RS2K is prominent in the Chicago area, but I don't know how much it's used elsewhere.

Swim

works fine for p411. Just drop an email to Gina that you have done so, and she responds back by email when it is received.