but do not inquire at all about sexual activities or fee.  That will usually get you cut off.

If you are new, then a study of the Self Help/Newbie Manual that is linked on this board is in order.  Look for the red and white life preserver.

Welcome to TER.

I'm new to all of this and was wondering what is okay to ask for form a provider and if there is a proper ettiquette to it?

you should know what she will provide.  Do NOT ask about anything sexual, or you will not get any response from her.  Escorts sell time and that's all.  Research includes checking her pics, her phone, her website, her reviews. her ads.

Is there a way to ask a provider to bring toys etc. or do most providers usually do this?

only after you have made the date, and do it privately.

it is acceptable to ask for clothing requests or other articles, just don't go overboard.