I'm a total newb and very stupidly didn't do really any research before scheduling an independent provider I found on backpage last night. I was well aware that her pictures were probably misleading to one extent or another, but the entirely wrong girl showed -- the pics were of a white girl, but a black girl showed. She was ugly as hell, rude, and failed to bring an item she promised to bring.

though it is an odd request...    
This belongs on the newbie board, I assume it will get moved at some point.

1) Don't pay a bait and switch anything, ever. If a pretty white girl advertises and an ugly black girl shows up, show her the door.

2) The likelihood of a pimp knocking on your door in a decent hotel is pretty slim.

3) Don't see unreviewed providers who don't screen.

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Let experienced folks take risks on BP...  

That's just genius...now, she can cry rape or assault. You should not have been so desperate to get your damn rocks off at the last minute and things like this, would not happen. Hope you learned a lesson, but guess what...nothing you can do. She will likely change her name and photos since they are fake to begin with, and scam other guys as well. So, you saved your chump change, and it is costing you more in the long run? Brilliant plan.

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Thank you. I really do feel like an idiot for making mistakes that are in retrospect quite obvious, even to a newb like me.

You are on TER - use this as your resource; sure there are some fine ladies that also advertise on Backpage. But you really need to stick with well reviewed ladies. No "bait and switch" or risk of getting ripped-off. Years ago I had a few similar situations using the "yellow pages" or Eros - you seldom got who you asked for. I've given these "ladies" cash and then just asked them to leave. I've only had great, safe experiences with the TER ladies.

Okay, fine, I lied. This is a strictly a hypothetical I posted in the interest of trolling.

...when I made my early mistakes, but of course I will never know where that may or may not have "led" in terms of escalation.  I easily lost a grand early on before finding TER.

As others have offered, my mistakes were all, save for one,  BEFORE I found TER, these scenarios should no longer be occuring for you under any circumstance.  And that one since TER, well it turns out she is particuarly astute at bullying guys for higher scores, threatening to blacklist for scores and shit so she simply isn't as advertised, VERY old pics and very average sex with no intimacy whatsoever.  That is what you have to look forward to next.  Maybe.  It happens.  

And that is the only lesson I have for you that hasn't yet been mentioned in this thread, "back-channel communication".  Always at least try PMing some of her recent reviewers, while guys might be intimidated into publicly scoring her higher, they will be more than happy to take their revenge by telling the truth through the back channel.  I get a couple of these a day on average for the ladies I have seen, some days get downright crazy with the requests after I have seen someone new to me (can I just put it out there already?  Alicia is ACTUALLY that awesome and the some...she may have set the PM record for me).

.........but again the point is, you will get the actual scoop by PM.  It requires planning and not "hey, I think I would like to have sex with a beautiful women in the next half hour".  Don't just use the search function "for today", rather use it to create a favorites list and gradually start sending out PMs concerning each.  Then, when they pan out contact them well before you want to see them and just let them know that you are interested and would like to get pre-approved for when you have the opportunity.  They LOVE this, it takes pressure off of them.  NOW you have a chance of seeing a great, reputable provider on short or shorter notice next time you turn on "That 70s Show" and Mila Kunis gives you wood.  Not that I have ever had that happen.

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Thanks for the thoughtful reply. Much appreciated. Your advice will not go unheeded.

I would have looked thru the peephole, seen it was not her, and not even opened the door. If she tried to cause a scene, then call hotel security and claim some crazy woman is at your door, she must be drunk or have the wrong door, as you have no clue who she is!

Couldn't see through the peephole. Should have opened the door with the chain on, though. Lesson learned!

and pimp-slaps the living shit out of you.  

and the corresponding good reviews, phone number and pics all match up. That's just trouble waiting to happen.

Oh my Jesus! That is a horrible experience, but babe SOME of those BP girls are not worth giving time to. A lot of them use fake pictures, have a pimp, or just evil period lol. I am so sorry this happenes to you, but please play safe! Why take the risk when there are lots of beautiful, classy and reviewed ladies here? Well I am not reviewed lol. So please be safe!!!!

....you will be reviewed soon enough babe, doing all the right things....thanks so much for the PM sweetie

Not a problem babe! I know I WILL blow someone's mind lol