I'm new to the hobby, I am white with a small build. However, my penis is probably a bit above average in length and girth...

I didn't think this would be a problem in this hobby, and girls are used to seeing all ranges, but the provider I saw was a little taken aback. I thought it was just flattery/acting at first, but we had a little difficulty getting going, but eventually made it work.

At the end she mentioned something like "You should really warn people in the future beforehand, in case they know they can't handle that.."

Was this just a comment, or was she serious? How would you even go about doing this? Isn't it a big NO-NO to be explicit in any way? And isn't this the internet where every single guy brags about his 9'' wang? Seems tacky at the least?

probably mention it to one another. I've had girls warn me that I'd need a magnum for a certain client, things of that nature.

You shouldn't say anything yourself, it's the quickest way to get yourself deleted and blacklisted as possible LE.

I actually did a search in here and general and read a few dozen threads without any real illumination

I don't mess with above average guys, but hell....many chicks like that, so just let them know.

Did your spider senses tingle a bit ago and urge you to check out the TER Newbie section?

But the prevailing wisdom on this board is you can't talk about anything sex-related, until you're in the room alone with the girl. So unless the girl explicitly mentions dick size on her website, I don't see how you can bring it up before the session begins.

Otherwise, it's a bit like saying, "I'm worried about the hotel I will be visiting you at.  I don't like to park my Ferrari just anywhere."

But this thread was started in the General board, before being moved here, and there used to be ton of dick size threads there (several per week sometimes) which is why I made my post.

Now if your question is serious, Julia and London probably gave you the best answers.

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Once a client is screened, as you said, there are tasteful and non-obvious ways of saying your wallet is extra large. I mean duh....we get the point lol. I honestly did not think every 1 in 3 guys was going to be a problem, so I never really made a big deal about it, until guys started giving me shit. I had sex, but it was not for very long and it was never all the way in. Still, a guy feels ripped off I guess if he can't pound the crap out of a girl for 45 min. straight, so I let em know...NOT the girl.

a lot of ladies would be turned off or scared he's le for talking about his dick size via email.

it would spook me for sure, and i can imagine other ladies would be turned off or think your LE as well.
I imagine it's rare that you'll find ladies w/ vaginas that can't accommodate, and this info should be in her reviews, her site etc.

Sure if the lady has other very obvious info on her website indicating sex acts for money.  Some do not, and size does matter to more than just a tiny few on here and elsewhere. London is very specific but I will not see large men either. My website has nothing and I mean nothing on it that could be considered incriminating or place a LE target on me.

The one and only time I had a guy show up sporting a huge penis, I did not go through with the appointment. I did mention to him that he might want to be  discreet in letting future ladies know of his size to prevent either refusal of service or limited service. Yeah he was pissed, but I then added, I am not the first women (civvie or escort) to mention this, so please take heed and this (lack of service) will be a mere memory.

Some guys feel that if they show up, a lady will deal. Some will deal and others  will limit or refuse service rather than endure the discomfort or outright pain.  And the guys know how difficult it could be due to their size.

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his email would go in the trash bin immediately. different strokes, different folks.
the one time I encountered a massive one, his reference alluded to the fact. had he done so, we wouldn't have met. so I guess either way the OP is out of luck, b/c he either shows up and surprises her or turns her off talking about dick size in his email which ends up in the trash bin..
reviews may be the most appropriate place to find this info but again thats just my opinion.

see anyone who alludes to their dick size in an email to me, even after the verification process is complete. But we all feel differently. based on this thread, it sounds like 4 out of 5 times he'll be successful w/ sharing this info via email. I represent the 1 out of 5 that would delete the email immediately (haven't been busted in 7 yrs & hope to keep it that way)...so odds are in his favor tho he'll miss out on some great ladies like me. again, I suggest he look at reviews or PM reviewers to ask about a lady's ability to accommodate his size, or request his references include this info. otherwise let's hope he emails the 4 out of 5. $.02

The best way to handle this situation imo, is to be easy with her if she seems to be uncomfortable or taken aback. I am a petite girl and down there is also petite for me. So for men with a larger size, I just need to use more lube, have more foreplay, and be more gentle so that we both can enjoy it.

Usually so long as your being mindful of your partners enjoyment and making sure she is comfortable, you shouldn't have any issues. Remember its always better to be careful than to be careless.

Good luck hobbying! stay safe!

Saying  "I have a giant dick" in an email would be sent to the trash..however there are some creative ways that smart people can deliver that info and understand  what is meant. I think the guys that have enormous dicks realize the difficulty some women may have and already have found a way to communicate this so neither party is disappointed. Then again, you might also be quite right in that any mention or even if eluded to, would be a case of instant trash.  Tough  one this one.

.....would be to someday have my lover or provider look at me with an astonished gasp and go "oh my.......that's big!!!"

.....but just a fantasy mind you...won't ever happen!!!