I have only had my third session with a provider. Each was one hour. I would get hard early on, then lose and regain it around 10 times before finally cuming. So I basically use the full hour till the end . Is this normal, or should one try and cum early on? In my session today I just asked the lady to give me a handjob to finish me off since my time was running out.

I think it depends on how your body is responding. I'm the type of provider who doesn't limit busts in a session...they have 1hr no strings attached. HOWEVER, make sure you ask if your ladies do this...as some are 1-and-done type ladies.

Guys are very temperamental as stress,lack of sleep, drunkeness, nervousness and MANY other factors can prevent you from getting and or staying hard. Just relax and let the good times roll.

If this isn't "normal sex" for you then it's probably nerves...

I'm not an MD, and I didn't stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night, but you might want to discuss this with your own MD. Or if you're embarrassed to ask, why not post on the Erotic Highway board, the LG can give you some insight into your situation. And if you've seen 3 providers, where's the reviews.

Relax and have a good time.  Your boner sounds fine to me.  It's about feeling pleasure.  So if it feels good, no worries.

I wouldn't try the little blue pill just yet. Try a cock ring and a penis pump first. The penis pump in your spare time to increase blood flow. The cock ring during the act to hold the blood flow in. Also make sure you don't need a bigger sized cover, or a special lube underneath the cover with tinglers.

In my expert opinion, it sounds like nerves. How much sex where you having before you discovered the hobby? It might be in your best interest to do the whole dinner date with a provider. That way it feels like a real date, or at least start the session with some good conversation and a nice massage.

Have you ever heard the saying, " Use it or loose it?" If you feel the urge by all means,pop. A good msog provider will be able to get you back to that place again in an hour.

Just my 2 cents.