Browsing this board today, I realized something about newbies. So many of you have questions about what is "normal", what is "expected", what is the "standard protocol", etc, etc, etc.

There isn't any. It is NOT "to be expected" that escorts will supply condoms, drinks, snacks, toys, multiple outfits or multiple orgasms.

If a lady is going to provide food and drink, it will probably be mentioned somewhere in her ad or on her website. Why? Because it is an extra - a selling point. She's not going to keep it a secret. is it "expected" that all girls (or at least all "high end" girls) will do this? Absolutely not.

Most girls have condoms and prefer to use their own over yours, generally speaking the higher priced ladies are most likely to have them, but everyone runs out sometime, and some just figure it's your job. Well, it is - how do you go to a paid date without condoms in your pocket?

No matter how many reviews you read that say a girl does this, that, or the other thing - there is never a guarantee. You can't ever just expect things to happen on a date.

Here are a few things that ARE standard:

1) Don't talk about specific sex acts on first contact. Once you have met a lady, ASK her if it's ok to talk "dirty" in subsequent emails or phone conversations.

2) Don't ever equate money and sex. It is ok with MOST but not all girls on first contact to either say "can you direct me to a website, ad, or review boad that gives your rates?" or just ask "what is the rate for an hour of your time?"

3) Most women don't want to negotiate price on a first date. Many will just hang up on you. Some WILL negotiate, but it really does take an experienced guy to know how and when to do it - or a guy that just doesn't care if he gets hung up on, he'll just move on to the next girl. Many women WILL negotiate with a guy who is, or looks like he will be, a regular.

4) Don't do stupid things that call attention to yourself at her incall. Sitting in the parking lot texting or calling for long periods; sneaking around the lobby looking guilty or lost; banging loudly on her room door; asking questions at the main desk "hey, what room is Holly Hooker in?" (amazing how manyguys don't deduce that she has not chcked in under her "hooker" name LOL)

5) Be clean. Excuse yourself to the bathroom when you get there, after you drop the envelope. Gives her a chance to check your donation without being tacky, and gives you a chance to freshen up (the longer your drive, the more funk settles on your junk; the cleaner it tastes, the more thoroughly she will lick it). I know I am preaching to the choir here because every guy who can read, with half a brain, already knows this.

6) BE NICE! (unless you are on a specific, agreed-upon fantasy date where you are going to treat her otherwise) Compliment her, treat her like a human being, like a date, like an attractive woman. She will respond in kind, it's ALMOST guaranteed.

7) There is NO SUCH THING as an LE check. If you are in the room with an escort, there is no question you can ask, no body part you can fondle, and nothing you can ask her to do that will prove she is/isn't a cop. In the scary (but unlikely, for the most part) event that you get caught in a sting - KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT until you get a lawyer.

8) Read reviews. Take the chastity belt off your wallet and pay for a VIP membership. If you decide to see an un or under reviewed girl, face the FACT that you are taking one for the team. You CANNOT be sure if she:
   a) will even resemble the picture in her ad
   b) is or is not LE
   c) will try to upsell you
   d) will offer the services you want, or any service at all, for that matter
   e) will try to take your money and run
   f) will show up with an armed friend/pimp
   g) will blow up your phone afterwards if anything goes wrong (in her view)  
   h) will be safe, clean, in a safe neighborhood, etc

 
Huh, well now I'm rambling.... but that's my story, and I'm sticking to it.

Yesterday I had a photo shoot with a very attractive 21 year old african american girl who wants to be a model and/or a rapper. It was specifically planned to be nudes and very sexual settings and poses. we discussed at length on the phone all the very sexy/slutty outfits and props she should bring. I told her she was welcome to bring a friend if it would make her feel safer, but I was definitely hoping for some fringe benefits.

She brought a friend. She brought her mom. Needless to say, no fringe benefits

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Clarence;
 A good post. You know the definition of a "normal" person? It's someone you don't know very well.
                Regards.....RR

agree this is a really good post...To bad new questions will get posted, and this will get pushed down to where no one will see it anymore. Is there anyway to make a post sticky so it will stay on top

Hi c3poa;
   Not that I'm aware of. I've also often wished that TER would offer some way to save ones favorite, pertinent or helpful posts. Sorta like they allow one to mark providers as "favorites" and then access them easily. It would be a great feature I think!
                                                              Regards.......RR

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And the funny/sad part is...one would be amazed that it actually does happen. I've had it happen on more than one occasion & actually had one guy who knew the room # but couldn't find it, so asked the front desk where "Nikki's" room was located.... and management & security then proceeded to escort him to my room... I didn't answer, turned my phone off, & snuck out a side door as soon as I could, lol.  

When going to a hotel that one is unfamiliar with, whether it is a lady going to see a gent or vice versa, if one is not sure, ASK the other party where the elevators are located. I always make sure I give step-by-step directions to avoid anyone getting/looking lost.  

 
"4) Don't do stupid things that call attention to yourself at her incall. Sitting in the parking lot texting or calling for long periods; sneaking around the lobby looking guilty or lost; banging loudly on her room door; asking questions at the main desk "hey, what room is Holly Hooker in?" (amazing how manyguys don't deduce that she has not chcked in under her "hooker" name LOL)"

Dude . . . bro . . . this should be required reading for all newbies ! ! ! It is that good ! ! !  

Kudos to clarence37 for a great post ! ! !  

There is so much distilled wisdom and experience in this one relatively short and humorously written post that is should be required reading.  

I would humbly add an item # 9.  All newbies should take advantage of the treasure trove of distilled wisdom and experience that is the newbie self help manual and the posts here on the newbie FAQ.  I think I have probably read the newbie self help manual cover to cover at least 2 times.  Also, when I thought I might be ready to stop lurking and step up, I decided I should read back six months here on the newbie board.  I quickly realized that (for the most part)  it is the same questions and issues over and over again.  After I read back six months I felt reasonably well acquainted with the "conventional wisdom" of the hobby.
 
Nowadays, conventional wisdom has gotten a bad name. I blame Bookface, Fitter, Miley Cyrus, Justin Beaver, and every other person who says newer is better by virtue of being new, as well as   all the other social media.  

In defense of conventional wisdom I would say conventional wisdom got to be conventional wisdom for a very simple reason . . . . it works most of the time ! ! ! It is not perfect and it is not bullet proof, but conventional wisdom will point you in the right direction most of the time.  

Once again, kudos to clarence37 for a great post ! ! !  

Good luck in all your future endeavors !

A.H.

All common sense, but right on the money!!!