Browsing this board today, I realized something about newbies. So many of you have questions about what is "normal", what is "expected", what is the "standard protocol", etc, etc, etc.

There isn't any. It is NOT "to be expected" that escorts will supply condoms, drinks, snacks, toys, multiple outfits or multiple orgasms.

If a lady is going to provide food and drink, it will probably be mentioned somewhere in her ad or on her website. Why? Because it is an extra - a selling point. She's not going to keep it a secret. is it "expected" that all girls (or at least all "high end" girls) will do this? Absolutely not.

Most girls have condoms and prefer to use their own over yours, generally speaking the higher priced ladies are most likely to have them, but everyone runs out sometime, and some just figure it's your job. Well, it is - how do you go to a paid date without condoms in your pocket?

No matter how many reviews you read that say a girl does this, that, or the other thing - there is never a guarantee. You can't ever just expect things to happen on a date.

Here are a few things that ARE standard:

1) Don't talk about specific sex acts on first contact. Once you have met a lady, ASK her if it's ok to talk "dirty" in subsequent emails or phone conversations.

2) Don't ever equate money and sex. It is ok with MOST but not all girls on first contact to either say "can you direct me to a website, ad, or review boad that gives your rates?" or just ask "what is the rate for an hour of your time?"

3) Most women don't want to negotiate price on a first date. Many will just hang up on you. Some WILL negotiate, but it really does take an experienced guy to know how and when to do it - or a guy that just doesn't care if he gets hung up on, he'll just move on to the next girl. Many women WILL negotiate with a guy who is, or looks like he will be, a regular.

4) Don't do stupid things that call attention to yourself at her incall. Sitting in the parking lot texting or calling for long periods; sneaking around the lobby looking guilty or lost; banging loudly on her room door; asking questions at the main desk "hey, what room is Holly Hooker in?" (amazing how manyguys don't deduce that she has not chcked in under her "hooker" name LOL)

5) Be clean. Excuse yourself to the bathroom when you get there, after you drop the envelope. Gives her a chance to check your donation without being tacky, and gives you a chance to freshen up (the longer your drive, the more funk settles on your junk; the cleaner it tastes, the more thoroughly she will lick it). I know I am preaching to the choir here because every guy who can read, with half a brain, already knows this.

6) BE NICE! (unless you are on a specific, agreed-upon fantasy date where you are going to treat her otherwise) Compliment her, treat her like a human being, like a date, like an attractive woman. She will respond in kind, it's ALMOST guaranteed.

7) There is NO SUCH THING as an LE check. If you are in the room with an escort, there is no question you can ask, no body part you can fondle, and nothing you can ask her to do that will prove she is/isn't a cop. In the scary (but unlikely, for the most part) event that you get caught in a sting - KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT until you get a lawyer.

8) Read reviews. Take the chastity belt off your wallet and pay for a VIP membership. If you decide to see an un or under reviewed girl, face the FACT that you are taking one for the team. You CANNOT be sure if she:
   a) will even resemble the picture in her ad
   b) is or is not LE
   c) will try to upsell you
   d) will offer the services you want, or any service at all, for that matter
   e) will try to take your money and run
   f) will show up with an armed friend/pimp
   g) will blow up your phone afterwards if anything goes wrong (in her view)  
   h) will be safe, clean, in a safe neighborhood, etc

 
Huh, well now I'm rambling.... but that's my story, and I'm sticking to it.

Yesterday I had a photo shoot with a very attractive 21 year old african american girl who wants to be a model and/or a rapper. It was specifically planned to be nudes and very sexual settings and poses. we discussed at length on the phone all the very sexy/slutty outfits and props she should bring. I told her she was welcome to bring a friend if it would make her feel safer, but I was definitely hoping for some fringe benefits.

She brought a friend. She brought her mom. Needless to say, no fringe benefits