when is it considered ok to tell a provider "no thanks"...had an experience this week with a provider that, though she was the person in the picture, she was forty pounds heavier..had not shaved her legs (minimal)in god knows how long amongst other things..and was generally not what was advertised?  Donation was already on the table.

Why did you give her the donation if she wasn't as advertised?  Once the donation's out, you've kind of agreed to go ahead with it.  As a "technicality" you could probably take the donation back since no services had been provided, but as a courtesy I'd say you should only take SOME of it back.

Once you go through with the session, its too late.  You have to pay her and all you can do is chalk it up to experience.

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if you're inside of the provider's place, it's already too late to have second thoughts. If you decide to leave, you should at least give her a partial compensation for her time.

The best is to make your homework, read reviews and make the call only after you're sure that she is somebody you want to see.

...INCALL!!!!  When SHE opens the door, look her over before entering.  If you don't like what you see, say, "I'm sorry, I must have the wrong room."  Then leave.  If she pulls the hide behind the door manuever, simply enter the room so that you can see her.  Again, if you don't like what you see then leave.  Now, let's clarify some things.  Don't pull this shit if she's accurately represented, and you're hit with a case of the nerves.  The moment of backing out due to nerves sailed along time ago, and would've been accompanied by a phone call well in advance of your meeting time.  Leaving upon arrival is only to be pulled if something is not right on THEIR END, i.e. suspected bait'n'switch, misrepresenting photos, uncomfortable surroundings, etc.

hopefully they are available in your area... you get a chance to actually see the package AND make a decision based upon her personality also...
But, gotta say, if you really do your homework, read the reviews, study any posts she makes on the boards etc... you will not run into that.

The smart thing to do is to only see ladies who are well reviewed or you have met at a M&G.

I, however do venture out onto CraigsList sometimes, some of us just love the 'unknown' I guess. I actually print a copy of her picture and take with me. Twice I have been to see a CL lady who totally misrepresented herself and I just showed her the picture and said sorry, I was looking for this lady. Also, after I have went to the trouble to travel to her place I do not feel at all obligated to give her any compensation. Just make sure she is the lady you want to see before you pull out your donation.

Thanks for the input gentlemen..I do read reviews and thought everything was together..but I got inside and felt a little stupid..but went through with it anyway because I felt like I contracted her for all intents and purposes..It was BTW, incall..next time I'll reimburse for 1/2 hour and split..first time I've heard of M & G's...how is that arranged?

skin deep, but Ugly goes all the way through!


LOL

...crying out..."not for all the money in the world!!!"

Newbies might find it unusual to get invited to  M&Gs ...

There's one called Meet & Greet.  Many cities have an occasional get together.  The catch is that most of them are hosted by someone, and they take responsibility for who is allowed.  You may find yourself giving your info to a fellow hobbyist.  Newbies are not normally welcome at these events only because they're unknown.

-- Modified on 5/12/2007 7:40:06 AM

Newbies have a hard enough time knowing how to begin, much less are they going to a gathering of experienced hobbyists and providers.

Newbies will more likely do a combination of checking reviews and learning through experience.

-- Modified on 5/12/2007 7:40:33 AM