Newbie - FAQ

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89Springer 609 reads
posted
1 / 14

As soon as he asked you about rate, that should have been it. Even I know better than that, and I'm a newbie.

The other stuff was enough to make you justifiably nervous, too.

c3poa 6 Reviews 607 reads
posted
2 / 14

Wow, this whole story sounds off to me. Asking 'what's your rate again?' over email is definitely bad. You probably should have dropped him right then. On the other hand, it seems odd that LE would be so disorganized, but at times they do try to do things that will distract you, so that you make a mistake.

Then there is the whole security thing, that is bizarre. If he has some weird issues at his location, he should get a hotel room.  

No you are not overacting, this whole story is bizarre. When I meet with a provider if ANYTHING makes me feel uncomfortable, I drop it right then, and move on. It's water under the bridge. One encounter is not worth taking any kind of risk.

hiddenhills 143 Reviews 372 reads
posted
3 / 14

You mentioned you felt weird in the beginning about his security comments. That should have been enough for you not to go forward.  Must hobbyists have a 15 to 30 minute wait period.  For him to leave after 5 minutes is bs. Just be thankful you didn't meet him.

Nolklylu 58 Reviews 415 reads
posted
4 / 14
c3poa 6 Reviews 443 reads
posted
5 / 14

Also if you want to be nice, you can always respond with a message along the lines of:

"Sorry it's off, I don't feel safe"

Feel free to use this at any time. There isn't anyway to argue with it, the only one who can say how you feel is you. If he tries to respond don't even look at at, delete it immediately, and block him.

harborview 10 Reviews 317 reads
posted
6 / 14

There were too many violations of the standard rules of this game we so enjoy.  They are here for a reason.  He could be LE or just a stupid newbie wanting to bang in the conference room...  but it's still not secure.  
As a retired person with no references...  when I started I had to give up my landline number so she could run reverse look up on it.  It worked out fine & 6 years later, I still see her when I'm in her area.  But he gave you nothing you could verify.  
Now you could have use a Street view to determine what companies were in that building & tried his name against it.  
Still, I will not second guess you.  If newbies can't follow the rules (like not discussing services & money) then you are better off not seeing them.  Before my first hook up...  like most newbies...  I tried to make contact a few times.  I broke all the rules.  No wonder I didn't get a date!
I think you dodged a bad experience.
Well Done.

DJ1985 21 Reviews 298 reads
posted
7 / 14

It looks like you already know the many things you should have done for your own safety, but didn't. That being said, if it doesn't feel right don't go, your safety is more important than a few bucks or a pissed off guy you don't even know.

jaydalee See my TER Reviews 343 reads
posted
8 / 14

What you described sounds very weird.
First I would not have been meeting him if he had no references,verification site membership,or employment info.If he is in fact not a good guy meeting him in public so he can show you a work badge or ID it is too late you are in trouble.
Go with your gut too many red flags with this one.
When you feel a certain way when someone contacts you need to go with your gut it will not steer you wrong.
Sorry that happened to you but you need to do more verifying first.
You had already accepted the appt and then you decided to start screening that should have been first that way you would have saw that he wanted to meet you in a commercial area.
You are very lucky

Missliaamelia See my TER Reviews 351 reads
posted
9 / 14

I am from the uk, so things are a bit different for me when meeting new clients... But after reading your post you certainly, 100% did the right thing.  

In the 7 years that I have been doing this I have discovered that if something sets alarm bells off in my head, it's for a good reason and to stay well away, and each time I have been proven right.  

So rest assured and smile to yourself that you avoided a sticky situation :)  

Lia x

aliciah See my TER Reviews 294 reads
posted
10 / 14

Sounds like a pimp trying to kidnap you possibly! And they are always super nervous if the girl is LE. So, idk. but, that's my 2cents! I know a lot about pimps. But, thank GOD am 1,000,000,000,000,000,000% INDEPENDENT & plan on being INDEPENDENT for the rest of my life... Now, that I escaped my last pimp over a year ago! Thank God!

littlecheddar53 68 Reviews 309 reads
posted
11 / 14

You had every right to be upset and paranoid about this situation.  I think that you should be thankful that this fellow did not stay around to meet you.  Never let your guard down and go with your gut feel. Just be sure to stick to your screening rules even if it does cost you a client or two.  Besides I do not know how you would have been able to have an enjoyable session with the way you were feeling at the time even if nothing "bad" would have happened.

macdaddy1944 51 Reviews 454 reads
posted
12 / 14

one more reason { or reasons } to stick to " normal " incalls..sometimes outcalls can become so confusing..it becomes scary or dangerous for the lady involved..

keystonekid 114 Reviews 362 reads
posted
13 / 14

multiple errors in judgment in his handling of the set-up of the appointment. You could have and maybe should have pulled the plug on his ass sooner.

Kayden_love.lv See my TER Reviews 458 reads
posted
14 / 14

I agree 100% if you don't feel safe you don't feel safe isn't that the point of this site for every one to have fun and be safe doing it that's why I'm on here I like that you can read a hobbyist reviews and see what kind of guy he is before you decide to see him if his reviews are to crazy for you and he's not some one you would want to spend time with you can see right away if your compatible  and that goes for the the the hobbyists as well. They are able to see if a provider is some one they would like to spend time with as well win win situation for both ends THANK YOU T.E.R ;)  
Xoxo kayden

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