I understand that when doing an incall a guy should dress nice: slacks, dress shirt and maybe a sports coat. But what is appropriate when you are hosting and the lady is coming to your hotel room? Does it make a difference if you have seen her once or twice before?

...depends on where you live - in L.A, I go to five star hotels in jeans, sneakers and a polo shirt and no one bats an eye.  I've never met a provider who turned me away because I wasn't dressed "properly."  The other day, I went to a provider's place at 11:00 pm.  I have seen her many times and given the hour, I showed up in sweatpants and a sweatshirt (it was cold).  She was more interested in my trouser mouse than the trousers I was wearing.

...codpiece would come back in fashion.  Little BigPapasan could sure use the extra room.

This past Saturday for example, but that is with a girl I have sessioned with 4-5 times already in a very short time period. Sorry for the visual. And before breakfast too. Lol

as I have occasionally made such comments.  Gals I overhear talking often do remark on how it turns them on to see a guy dress up nicely.  Sure, they'll see a slob, but why diminish the potential?  Especially watch the shoes.  Make sure they are good quality and made from something that had parents (Seinfeld reference, btw) Do you think that providers who spend half their waking hours thinking about shoes are not going to notice yours?

Most of my dates in my home city are nooners. I'm coming from work and returning to work after I cum. I'm a professional and were a suit everyday. I get a lot of compliments from the ladies on my style and I enjoy that aspect of our interaction. When I'm travelling, the only opportunity I have for hosting, I still dress to impress. I feel comfortable, her first impression is "great, he cares about making a good impression," putting her at ease, and I still get to enjoy her hands undoing buttons and zippers, to get into my pants.

your clothes will be coming off soon after i get through the doorway, unless they are off already

have always believed that it absolutely makes a difference what you wear to a session. When you walk into a provider's hotel room (or she into yours), especially the first time you will meet one another, the lady is immediately judging you. She is making a determination of what kind of client you will be. The client who is dressed nicely (i.e. think a button down shirt, or nice sweater, slacks, shoes...tie, suit and tux are optional ) will be regarded in a higher vain than the client who is dressed in torn jeans, dirty sweatpants, a tank top, flip flops and a backwards baseball cap. Now, can the "clean cut" man turn out to be a worthless client? Of course. Can the "torn jeans" man turn out to be a true gentleman and terrific client? Absolutely. But why start off with a negative impression in the ladies mind? She will never outwardly admit her feelings, but they are there. We ALL do it everyday in our lives. Until we learn more about the person, its human nature to immediately judge books by their covers.    

The gals I play with want me clean and could care less what I am wearing. They realize I am the client, not the other way around.

Don't wear a dress. She'll think you're kinky.

The birthday suit is the best. I love sending the text that says, " door's unlocked. I'm in bed naked waiting for you. Just come in and hurry up!" 😜😜😜

Posted By: JuliasLittleSecret

Just kidding, LOL.    
   
 Wear whatever makes YOU comfortable, whether it be a suit and tie or your birthday suit.  

...they will do what Fish? Tank the session? These girls are professionals. They get paid to overlook a man 6'5" and 350 pounds. Or one that is hideously ugly.

No one is advocating black tie and tails, but I suppose the real answer to this question is to wear what ever makes you feel best, and hope that the gal isn't too turned off by it.

Just as I tell guys here and elsewhere to hobby as they see fit.

being clean, presentable, on time, with money, etc etc etc, yeah, I get all those things, but I dress according to whatever I was doing right before or what I plan on doing right after the session. I don't plan on having my clothes on for more than a minute or two after getting there, so I don't put a lot of thought into it.

If I show up at a hookers door, or a restaurant or even at my bank, dressed casually, but dressed tastefully, I am going to get a better first reaction than someone in more formal wear, but with no style or taste.

Like you, I wander in and out of five star hotels all the time dressed quite casually. The days of thinking the guy in the suit has more substance than the guy in jeans ended years ago.  

living in Florida, I dress weather appropriate, shorts and t-shirt or golf shirt for warm weather, and jeans with long sleeve flannel shirt w/t-shirt underneath for our 'cold' weather.  My clothes are clean, as is my body, and that's what they will get.  If the girls don't like that, well, they are not paying me to dress up, I'm paying them to play with me.  Besides, the clothes are coming off off soon anyway.  

I appreciate all of the feedback but I tend to agree with ShakingtheSheets & Mr. Fisher. As an older hobbyist (medicare eligible) I do think that being tastefully dressed, especially for the first date, is more appropriate. I understand that it may not make much difference in how a provider treats me. I guess it just makes me feel more comfortable. So I will continue to wear a button down shirt, dress slacks and a sport coat when I am visiting her room. However, I may start wearing a robe when she is visiting me. Of course, that assumes it is not one of the casinos in Vegas where we have to meet downstairs due to security. Again, thanks to everyone who replied.

JLS - if I popped out from behind the door wearing lingerie you would probably either run away or end up rolling on the floor in hysterical laughter and that might (just might) dampen the mood...

Posted By: JuliasLittleSecret

Just kidding, LOL.    
   
 Wear whatever makes YOU comfortable, whether it be a suit and tie or your birthday suit.  

Fortunately since my profession is not law, my appearances in front of a judge are infrequent to say the least.