it is not race just the person ![]()
Hi everyone,
I am a total newbie - been lurking around for several months and have been reading a lot of posts and the newbie material on this site.
I came across some posts that say providers
do indeed screen on race. I am of East Indian descent (born in the US, though). I am extremely well educated and make enough money that I would happily pay the donations typically requested in exchange for some sweet companionship. ![]()
So, will I have a difficult road ahead of me, because of my race? Please don't sugarcoat
your responses, lay it on me!
I suspect my lack of success in the civilian
dating world was due, at least in part because
of my race. I am not too bitter about
that though. But now I am bringing white
envelopes with me with green paper inside,
so I hope I will fare better.
I would like some honest advice from both
gentlemen and providers.
Thanks!
- Doc
P.S. I tend to be (mostly) attracted to Caucasians and Latinas.
Depends on what city/state your in obviously. But no race for east indians doesn't play a role in my provider hobbys.. I could care less !
Thanks.
I'm in Boston, Mass., btw.
You may have screening issue more than anything.
However, if you are willing to provide information required by the ladies you should not have issues.
Yes, there are will be ladies who may refuse to see you based on your race but as was recommended you will save yourself time and aggrevation by well phrased email.
We do pay attention to how you gys write ![]()
Lina
Providers that will not see certain races ----again all ignorant but for them based on whatever it's still their choice
to save your time just state in your introduction email
hi I'm dr so so 5'9, of east Indian descent working at ....
Obviously you will hear back from ladies that will see you
I would!! ![]()
Some providers do screen based on race, sad but true.
However, most of us are much more concerned about other things, such as hygeine, are you respectful, are you safe to see, will you respect our boundaries...
Do your homework, read the newbie manual, figure out what you should or should not say when making an appt request. Read the providers website carefully and give her the proper screening info, you should have no problems.
you want honesty, here is honesty. I don't discriminate, I was raised to see people as people and skin tone has nothing to do with who you are. But, in my experiences, I have had issues with more than 80% of the East Indian men that I've come across.
There was a lack of respect, I felt looked down upon as a woman in general. Several of them waited until they were there and attempted to "barter". One man even had the nerve to hold up a hundred dollar bill and say "it's better than nothing". He was right, but for that he got 3 minutes (sadly for him it only took 1).
It had gotten to the point where I stopped seeing East Indian men. It wasn't worth the headache.
I took a break to goto school and now that I'm back, I'm going to see anyone who is nice and not worry about the past. But my point is that yeas you will run into problems. There are others who had the same issues that I had and then there are females who are just racist bitches. Sucks but it's the way the world is
it is not race just the person ![]()
part of the problem was that I was dealing with CL when it was at it's worst. Then I wasn't screening, I felt that it was silly.
Like I said though, I took some time and changed my game. I don't think that the men who are likely to behave like that are going to go through screening.
Hey darling so sorry to hear that some providers do screening on race. Ridiculous if you ask me. As long as your are a gentleman and nicely showered is all that matters to me. I dont know why race should matter its not like were moving in together. LOL
I have had several clients of Indian descent who were not circumcised. This is not a problem if they WASH good. However, I have had a few who said that "it hurt" to pull the foreskin down and I knew that if it hurt too much to pull it down for a bbbj then it certainly hurt too much to wash.
Therefore I HAVE used condoms for bj's when I normally don't. This has only been with Indian men and I honestly have no idea why. I have probably seen a dozen to two dozen Indian men and most of them have not been circumcised.
So this is my experience. This MAY be the reason for the "bias" NOT because of skin color or race but because most women will assume that you are not circumcised.
I don't really know how to delicately bring that up if you ARE circumcised or what.
Good Luck.
Ladies, thanks so much for all your responses.
For the record, I don't consider not seeing someone for an intimate encounter based on race as either "racist" or "ignorance". I noticed some of you used these words and I don't feel that way about these ladies at all.
To me, "racist" is making someone sit at the back of the bus because of their race.
To me, "ignorance" is passing over someone with a perfectly great resume for a job interview because of their last name.
Whether or not a woman allows a man to let him in her body is a whole different matter altogether.
I'm not going to get judgmental about someone not wanting my money. I was just trying to get a feel for how easy/difficult this was going to be for me, since I am already extremely scared/anxious about getting into hobbying for a variety of other reasons not related to this "race" thing.
Thanks again.
Doc
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