I tend to send a thank you-had a great time-see you again text after a great visit ...any thoughts appreciated

Unless you want to see the lady again and would like to use her as a reference or any date related question (whitelist, oks) . Any other message is not appropriate..

Some guys "fall in like" with a gal while still in the afterglow. They want to be "friends."  

While real friendship is possible in our little p4p world, it is established over time. After many visits. AFTER deep trust sets in, on both sides.

It can be all too easy for that one text to b/c 3 then 5. Then...ugh...Houston, we have a problem.

Perfectly acceptable to send ONE text/email afterwards as a thank you gesture. If she opens the door to more, different story, but until she does, newbie guys need to be professional in the number of post session contacts.

Good advice Paloma.

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Too much gushiness will prob make her avoid you.  A simple TY I had a good time is usually sufficient.  Last thing you want to appear as is clingy.

Swim

...doing that pretty much from the first time I saw a provider. It's a nice gesture. I think the ladies appreciate it. The others are right though. Keep it to one and you're good.

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Don't ruin the nice gesture by becoming a pest though.

but I agree with your major point about becoming a pest.

I text, email, PM with many "hooker friends" some of them I've known a long time, others a much shorter time. My rule of thumb for conversations with providers that may or may not just be being "polite" in responding, is to only send one text/email to a lady and then wait to see if the door is opened to a real conversation, and to give her an "out" to end the conversation without looking impolite. anything along the lines of "I am sure you are busy, but" will do. Allow her to bail on the conversation, and then allow her to initiate them is she so chooses. If she initiates contact then you have your answer, if she doesn't then you also have your answer, just not the one you are hoping for. lol

to send email.... afterwords yes. Specially if I want to see him again, or if he wants to see me again

I'd say one or two and that's IT and yeah, unless we're cool from somewhere else and have a lot in common to talk about, conversation need to be restricted to "p411 Okays / datecheck WeMets / and Verifications request".  

But if the girl wants to talk, then I'm cool with that too. lol  If the girl doesn't wanna talk that's cool too, I'm not texting out of romantic interests and not desperate for a texting buddy.  I do text/email with a number of existing / retired / transient providers so I'm not in shortage of friends, although making new ones is definitely welcome.  Friendships develop gradually so it's best not to force it too much.  

Speaking of, this BSC provider initiates contact over TER pm. Cool, I thought. She's not the type I would ever see for a paid session cuz she's at least 10+ years older than me but her contacting me out of the blue is fine with me. So we exchange PMs a bit. I check out her reviews just out of curiosity, decent reviews and good scores.  

She then sends me another PM out of the blue. Friendly one.  

A month later,  she sends another one. We talk again. A few weeks later, I asked about her photos, just to take a look. Maybe or maybe not she might be attractive enough for me to have a session with her even though she's waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay over my age limit.  

She then wants my fucking Linked In profile and asks for deposit via PayPal. HELLO??? I thought "I'm not even interested in seeing you lady, I don't see girls who are older than me!" but I didn't actually say that, I wrote a toned down version of it explaining that I am not contacting her out of interest for session, she contacted me first and thought we were somewhat on semi-friendship level.  

She then responds "if you have no Linked In, you're not a professional therefore I don't wanna talk to you".  

I responded "You're the one who contacted ME, No big deal!"    

LMFAO!!  

How's that for bat shit crazy?    

 

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Regarding contact in general, I've had ladies I've seen contact me out of the blue, and I was fine with that.
So that's kind of the flip side of what you are talking about.
But yeah, providers do have their antennas up for clingyness, so be careful in how you present yourself.
I tend to be an open friendly guy, and I suspect at times that friendliness can be misinterpretted in this hobby world, so I've learned to dial that back a notch

I used to send my ATF a "Thank You" Text. But not anymore. Her room mate was using her phone when I Texted her. She got into a bit of trouble. So she had to make up some story on why she got that Text. Now I just Thank her right after the Session is over in person.

So I sent no such message...  Next morning, she messaged me...  knowing she'd crossed the line with her rant & pretty much knew I wasn't coming back.