Have had a couple of encounters, but would advice on how best to determine currentdonation if not listed in ad. Should we verify prices listed on TER? Been looking mainly on City Vibe and ThatMall. Thanks.

Men asking questions about sex and money once they arrive, tend to give providers the creeps. You can word it like, "How much for your time" and that should take care of it before you arrive. If she starts upselling and talking about certain services being more, leave. Act as if you have no clue what the hell she is talking about and walk out the door.

she's listed on P411 or Date-Check.  She controls the info there, so it's more likely to be accurate than TER's info, which could be dated.  Same thing with her web site.  If none of that's possible, then Julia's advice is best: an e-mail asking where to find her donation info.  That, at least, is indirect.

*Excellent* choice of wording. Gold star for you! Make that two gold stars.  * *

It would creep me out to say, "Hey how much?"  "Is licking extra?" That sort of thing.

Your website is awesome in the way you have donation information listed. No muss, no fuss--should be the template for everyone.

I wonder whether your business degree is showing...

BTW, interesting list of bands there. Five Fisted Death Grip? Wow, have to check some of these out. I have a Linken Park CD, somehow. I like it.

I share the concern of the original poster.

It seems overwhelming at times to try to figure this out! I mean, there are several sets of donations and specials and all posted all over.

Adding to the pressure is the fact that the ladies really do not like to discuss this particular detail in emails--making it even harder. Of course, you don't want to put the wrong amount in--very risky in one dimension and in the other direction extra money should go toward a tip/giftcard/etc (IMHO).

All y'alls well-worded advice posted below is what I will follow henceforth and forthwith.

Thank you London and Secret!

I used to have a 10 page website filled with drivel and fluff that I am sure most guys never read, so I changed all that and made it more simplistic. If you can't find a rate on my site, you have a problem lol.

We are talking fly by night girls I would presume, who only list a number, have no website, and no reviews....for those, you have to inquire over the phone which is a bit uncomfortable I would assume. Why they don't put something like *** an hour is beyond me.

then ask "Is the donation info on your TER profile accurate?"

If you can't get it squared away before the appointment, then I would cancell.

Not listing rates is an open invitation to getting snookered into all kinds of upsell, etc.  Don't fall for it.