Newbie here, learning advice from a lot of insightful members who has been in the game for awhile...

Going to a bachelor party in florida, looking for fun and new to this hobby.  Found a "part-timer college girl" provider with extraordinary looks, 4 reviews (reviewers had 2-6 reviews), the provider insists proper screening from either two providers or website/work phone, and incall only to start...

As many members may be in the same position, I have a very reputable white collar job at a top flight organization, and am a bit uncomfortable with providing identity in a possible encounter.  May be a bit paranoid but "blackmailing" is a concern, especially it can get ugly.  Any advice will be appreciated..

out there".  Are you a P441, RS2K, or Date-Check member?  

Another option is to put this hottie "on hold" for a little while and see a few other ladies who have less stringent screening requirements and then come back to the hot young college girl after you have the 2 required references.

Yes, no sense in doing anything you are not comfortable. Really do consider date check or P411. You would have to provide your employment info to them, but it would be highly confidential. Once you are verified, you could see newbie friendly providers.

Personally, the more stringent a lady's screening, the more comfortable I am seeing her.

I went the P411 route and it worked out well for me. I paid the $89 and they called my job to make sure I really work there they asked me some questions and that was it. I met my first provider Friday.

Long term: As others have stated, P411, Datecheck and then when/if you get the ball rolling, giving reviews (which I did not do so for almost a year and it effected my screening) and getting TER White listed. If you are a travelling Hobbyist, the former options are somewhat better (specially if you do not wish to write reviews) as the latter option works best for the local hobby market, if that market is on TER's radar. Some cities such as the one in which I live in, have their own locally dominant Adult Service Provider website(s) and if so, it is a good idea to join one of those websites too, if they are not public access (TER is semi public access)

Short term: From what I understand, this Lady wants either 2 Provider references (which I presume you do not currently have) or she is requiring your employment details and employer's website information. Since you seem to have a good job and claim to work for a good company, then I  understand your concerns, even if less risky than what you'd imagine!

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Thanks for the feedback, truely a dilemma she is exactly the kind of gal I would want for one meeting but she does not honor the third party verifiers...  I'm just paranoid

Also keep in mind two things: 1) screeners understand your problem re being called at work and do it by posing as a variety of reputable callers so no alarm bells go off; 2) there are other ways to get cleared by providing driver's license into or other things specific to the person clearing you.  I needed to do this with P411 because I'm retired, hence, no job to call.  It all worked out.  If you want to play you need to trust them, which is another reason to stick with well-reviewed providers.  If they did not operate discreetly they would be out of business.