I am a povider on TER with no reviews because I am new. I posted an ad, and a guy requested to see me for an outcall. We arranged the date and I can honestly say everything went well, other than when he wanted to meet me near his house but not at his house. By this being my first time meeting a hobbyist from TER, that threw me off. So I told him I was in a different car than I was actually in when we met, simply because I wanted to scope out the area for LE. So everything was good, he wasn't LE and we continued the date. So one we did the date I asked for a condom, he then stated "I can't cum with a condom". I looked at him then put it on anyway. He came in less than 10 mins. I thought pretty quick for a guy that can't "cum with a condom". I looked at the reviews he left TS women and regular women and I've read that 1-2 women and TS he's seen used protection with him, out of the other 40 or more that didn't. But that didn't bother me because I knew I would use it. Anyway I said all this to ask if you guys think he didn't leave a review b/c I didn't off him "unprotected services"? Because like I said the date went fine to me. Even if he would've left a bad review, I feel like he could've said something.
...that he didn't leave you a review. Some guys won't see providers associated with guys that don't use or ask not to use protection and vice versa.
and then
You should always bring your own supplies so there won't be surprises or disappointments. For various reasons, don't leave it to the guy to bring the rubbers. ("You don't have any condoms? Sorry, I ain't doing that w/o a condom but I'll give you a HJ and a massage. Sorry, no discount." = disappointment.)
I assume that you will have fewer problems like that as your ads and reviews better describe what sort of services you provide.
I wouldn't worry about the guy not posting a review, either. Or, keep in mind that he has a 90 day window to submit the review AND it can take another 3 days to post after he submits it. I.e., his review might show up yet
Of course I had a condom but it was in my purse in his living room. I put it down when he made me a drink, after we drank and talked for a while we went straight to his bedroom. Once we were in the mood and undressed I figure why not ask him while we're right here, instead of me getting up and walking all the way to the living room to get what he might already have(which he did have) I figured that would throw off the vibe. If he didn't have a condom I wouldn't have had a choice but to get up and get the one I had. I thought I was making things easier.
I sure hope you had more than one.
No matter if I had 1 or 10 I still had them, that's beyond my point here. I could care less about that part.
I learned pretty quickly that it was in my best interest to try to provide my client with the very best time possible. There's so much competition and with reviews and everything, The details of the kind of session we provide are common knowledge. It is a good idea to have plenty of condoms. That way we can go back-and-forth between activities and not be limited to one round with a condom. Plus something good happened to that condom, although condoms breaking is extremely rare.
Yes, there are men who will say they can't come with a condom and there are men who will ask to do full-service without a condom.
I don't believe these men will punish us with a bad review for saying no. I think most providers will not do full-service unprotected.
You absolutely did the right thing.
You will be able to feel more comfortable meeting new man when you learn more about screening as time goes on. It does take time to figure everything out.
Feel free to read the etiquette and screening pages on my website. I wrote it for newbies to help them understand and it might help you.
I also have links to a bunch of different websites you might be interested in advertising on on the bottom of my purse page.
Good luck
The guy probably wanted a bbbj and being that she has no reviews he did not know her menu. She does nothing BB. Here's her last thread on this board.
but I didn't remember who started or contributed to it.
Her callers from BP and CL may still not know, but guys from TER will know her preferences and can decide whether or not to contact her in the first place, based on their BJ and other preferences. If I could find her ads, I'd comment after seeing if I think her service level is made clear in the ads.
If OP has more questions or seeks more advice, I hope she won't be Shaii about bringing them to the Newbie board. No ... wait ... she SHOULD be Shaii about ... wait ... I think I just confused myself
Yup, and I'm proud to say I DO NOT offer anything BB and I received a lot of service without doing it with no problem. So it's really not necessary, providers have no reason to do that other than being thirsty for money. I would consider myself GFE because I am passionate with my clients and I kiss them, we just use protection how a responsible gf/bf would but not full GFE you guys are looking for "married couple experience". A lot of guys that have common sense wouldn't either. It's not worth the risk for "some money" sorry I plan to live a normal life one day, I can't do that with an STD that don't go away.
Since you wanna post old threads read the one comment where a guy says "He's in his mid 40's WTF do he care, he's already lived half his life, he was more concerned about the risk in his 20's then now". What about the providers in their 20's that would like to have a GFE with him that doesn't know this is how he carry things. Then he states "having a STD is a badge of been there done that". Like wtf is that to say, basically he caught STD's in the past and that didn't alarm him so now he's out here playing Russian roulette with his life again just waiting for his moment. Way to go dude, way to go👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I have no idea where you are or what your ads say, but once your TER Reviews are up, I think you'll have even greater success and even fewer problems due to misunderstandings.
You can reply to a post with your ad link included, you just can't include such a link in an Originating Post to start a new topic. (Or you can PM me if you have VIP.)
One more thing: you can get STDs from kissing, too.
I am aware that STD's can be transmitted through kissing. Which is why I don't provide DFK and barely LFK. I'm not going to sit here and act like I've never seen any of my clients unprotected. Of course I have, but we didn't make that arrangement before we met, we agreed on regular service. It happened gradually over time only with regulars that I've been seeing for a while. How'd you think I kept my best regular around for 2 years. So I'm not saying everyone is perfect or I am. But I do think it's kind of sick to see every hobbyist or provider giving unprotected services before they even meet in person (if the price is right)or got to even know them a little bit. It's ridiculous to see some hobbyist review about 40 girls by the time you get to the 25th one he then seen them all unprotected, that's not cool.
Just think about it why would a provider feel like they should make a man feel good sexually that they'll never more than likely meet again, or that doesn't really give a fuck about them they just want their nut. Like really how many hobbyist can truly care about us providers. And how many providers can say they care about hobbyist if there's little to no money involved. Non. So why offer those services
But I will say emphatically, if you advertise as GFE and then refuse to DFK or BBBJ, you are going to get a LOT of pushback and some very poor reviews.
If you advertise as NON GFE, then it's your business what services you care to offer and which you care NOT to offer.
I will state for the record however, while I prefer BBBJ over a CBJ, and I can even enjoy sex without any kind of BJ, no kissing will flat kill it for me. No kissing is like ordering a pizza with no sauce and no cheese. Yes it's technically still a pizza, but I have ZERO desire to eat it.
So PLEASE, do yourself and all the rest of us a favor and do NOT advertise as GFE. It's misleading and you will get pushback from the TER crowd.
I agree with you totally, but the thing is I don't have any reviews. In order to have a profile made you must have reviews at least 2 I think. That's what I'm working on now, but when I post on the ad board in my region I don't advertise GFE at all. If someone happens to ask, I'll say yes I offer GFE everything covered. Some are with it some aren't.
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see this link...
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Your post really cracked me up! LMAO
I consulted with doctors and did my research online before I ever did anything that exchange bodily fluid's.
I'm sure we all did before we made the decision of whether or not to offer GFE activities. Not only the providers but the hobbyists also.
As a registered nurse it was totally against my nature to do the things that are usually considered GFE which consists of DFK (deep French kissing ) DATY (dining at the Y or cunnilingus), and BBBJ, which you already know about.
I got the same information over and over again. These activities are very safe. The main risk would be herpes which can be avoided by taking a look.
The other STDs are not going to be transmitted by these GFE activities. Almost for sure.
I've been doing this for seven years and I get tested frequently. I've done some porn. I can tell you that I have NEVER once had a single STD. And I'm a GFE provider. Think about that.
You have to do what you're comfortable with, but Before you decide that we are all reckless and not thinking about what we are doing, I think you should go to a Planned Parenthood and talk to the people there. Do some research online. You, too, will discover that GFE activities are pretty safe.
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Most everything you did was right on target. Keeping your supplies with you will be something you adjust but IN calls are more common where you'll have everything at hand. A lot of gals prefer to bring & use condoms they supply. You certainly waill want to have more than 1 condom... what if one is defective & needs to be replaced mid-session?
It used to be that condom use was understood for FS... I know I didn't specifically mention it in my earlier reviews. Including condom use in reviews is more common now but I would not make a judgement based on the description in reviews... unless there's something more specific the other way.
He may indeed write a review... TER allows 90 days... I often write a draft & review in before submitting some days later...
Once it is up, you can & should review it & use the "Report a problem" link to get any mistakes corrected. You can also link your review to your membership (until you have reviews, all TER memberships look the same) which gets you free limited VIP.
of a timely review but many guys will make notes in a Word doc and then copy the notes over for the details.
I might think a proviider gives me a GFE experience because I feel like she's my GF... others have a list of expected services. This is where TER & reviews come in. A gal might state in her ad that everything is safe or something similar... that means fully covered.
Don't let anyone talk you into doing something you don't want to.