this is pretty lame guys but i am a virgin (college age) and would like to get "deflowered" by a provider.....

if you guys can give me some advice or personal story on:

1) your first time w/ a provider (was it awkward? uncomfortable? etc)

2) your first time ever (did you know what you were doing? is everything just instinct? any awkward moments?)

3) recommended providers in the DC area (price range about 300, incall prefer)

Thanks

As for your questions, I'll answer out of order:

2) No, beyond basic theory I didn't really know what I was doing. It was a bit awkward, but my girlfriend was experienced and helped me through it with a minimum of laughter. The one comment I'll remember forever was "we're going to have to work on your stamina!". She was a great teacher, BTW.

1) I was nervous and excited at the same time. I went back and forth for a couple of months before taking the plunge. I didn't know about TER, but thankfully didn't get really burned. I now realize that she was pretty new too. I'll bet it was her first week "on the job". Once we got past our mutual nervousness, things went ok.

3) As stated in the subject line, post this request on the DC board. Use a subject like: Can anyone recommend a lady for a 1st. timer. Being new, you may have a little bit of difficulty. The ladies I know in D.C. require references. Being a college student also makes things a little difficult. If you are employed anywhere, even part time, employer info will help. For their safety, the ladies need to be able to verify that you are who you say you are.

Re first time. Suggest you see again the movie "Something About Mary". Remember the scene w/Ben Stiller reading a Macy's lingerie ad in the bathroom taking the edge off before his date. You will last longer. Also, take care of the lady first. Give her an orgasm first. Last thing you want is a repeat of American Pie. She touches you and "bam" you are done. Other than that, baseball stats work for me.

The first thing that you need to do is be very sure that you want to get started with the hobby. I realize getting deflowered by a non-provider woman can take time and a put you through a lot BS, but this hobby can be addictive if you are not constantly aware of your rationale for being in it.  So spend time thinking about what you are about to do.

To answer your questions.

1) your first time w/ a provider (was it awkward? uncomfortable? etc)
- The first time at anything new is awkward, expect to be nervous with your voice quivering if speaking to an agency or provider for the first time.  

2) your first time ever (did you know what you were doing? is everything just instinct? any awkward moments?)
- The first time is not going to be pretty.  Just let the provider knowbefore you begin the act that you have not been with a woman in bed before. Most experienced providers will understand and work to make you comfortable and give you pointers if you need them, just ask.

3) recommended providers in the DC area (price range about 300, incall prefer)
- Don't live in DC.  What you should do is get a VIP membership here and check TER DC reviews ranked by performance, you should find many choices.  You can also post on the DC regional board (in the city selection at the bottom of the tab that you found this board on). By following thses steps you can avoid many of the pitfalls that befall those that have not taken time to educate themselves.

- Your age is going to be an issue with some ladies.  Be up front about it, you will find one that is legitimate and will see you.

- If you choose to do this, good luck and remember to keep your head clear while engaging in this wonderful pursuit.

If you are losing your virginity to a provider, you have to be very careful.  

Like the other poster said, this hobby can be addicting, and I would imagine it would be doubly or triply so, if you end up having your first-ever encounter with a provider.  Then, somehow, your emotions may be caught up in this hobby, and that's a dangerous thing to have happen.

The whole benefit of this hobby is the opportunity to be emotionally detached from a relationship while fulfilling biological needs.  But somehow, getting deflowered by a provider might somehow cause an emotion-biological connect that is counter-productive.

Just my .02.

1) your first time w/ a provider (was it awkward? uncomfortable? etc)
Calling the provider was the most awkward part about it for me.  The nervousness was worse than calling a girl that actually gave me her number.  It took me months before I actually first contacted a provider.
When I finally met with her, the nervousness I had kind of made it less than fantastic (but still very good).  I was scared about LE, getting robbed, or worse: climaxing too soon.  
The second time, however, was awesome!  

2) your first time ever (did you know what you were doing? is everything just instinct? any awkward moments?)
I had watched many porn movies and thought I knew what I was doing--but I didn't.  The girl I was involved with was a bit more experienced than me, and I have no doubt that I was the worst she ever had. No real awkward moments except for the fact that I couldn't feel anything at first; I then asked her if she could feel it, and she said "no."  As my inexperience became manifest, she offered to take over and actually made the experience half-way decent (for me, at least).  Just remember, it's all in the hips!

3) recommended providers in the DC area (price range about 300, incall prefer)
Like others have stated, you should try the DC boards and use the TER reviews as a guide.

1.  First time with a provider:
I'll never forget the date; it was Independence Day, 1989.  Me and a buddy rented a hotel room for the night near a strip club.  We knew we wouldn't be able to drive home that night.  After the bar closed we headed back to the hotel, called a local Agency and within 30 minutes a gorgeous blonde was there, ready to take us both on for three hours.  No akwardness or being uncomfortable there, since both of us were too drunk to feel that way.

2.  First time ever:
In the front seat of my 69 Pontiac Catalina, parked at a local lake near my home.  Funny thing is I don't remember her name, but I remember mutual groping and both of us learning our way around.  It seemed completely natural.

3.  DC providers.
Most providers in the DC area are in the 200-300 range.  There are too many to even begin to suggest here.  If you aren't a VIP member, spend the money, join, and then search the reviews using the criteria that interest you to narrow the field.  Then contact the ladies you would like to see from that list.  They have plenty of experience with guys just like you, and can lead you as much or as little as necessary.

A word of warning:  In my experience, your age may play against you.  Most ladies prefer older gentlemen (30+) instead of younger ones.  Just be honest with the ones you contact, be polite, and see what happens!

Regarding my first experience with a provider....I was scared to death!  Very nervous but did get over it.  She was very understanding it could tell I was new.

Regarding losing my virginity...I can remember everything about it.  You will too.  

There is something to be said about being with a person who knows what they are doing and could make your experience a great one.  

Let me throw something else out though.  I was 25 and had waited a long time by choice.  The was not in love with the person I lost my virginity with and regret it to this day.

Just one person's thoughts....

2) your first time ever (did you know what you were doing? is everything just instinct? any awkward moments?)

Well, I hadn't ever seen any pornos, but I had raised animals so I'd seen them breeding!  Yeah, I had the basic idea, but I hadn't even been naked with a girl.  I was 21, so I was around your age.  We were in love and it was the natural next thing in the progression. We were both virgins. She was really snug - I've only once experienced this snugness with a provider. I blew really fast, which I understand is common for virgin guys, so take it slow or just stop all movement if it gets too close before you're ready. Practice delaying while masturbating and it will help you.


1) your first time w/ a provider (was it awkward? uncomfortable? etc)

I was scared to death! Afraid of LE mainly.  Also concerned about disease.  Very nervous when I called. Confessed that this was the first time calling an escort, but I was quickly put at ease by the provider calming me with, "I'm just girl."

She was quite late showing up at our meeting place and I was within seconds of bolting when she appeared.  She was pretty and pleasant. Saw how nervous I was and spent a longer than usual time just visiting. Once I was relaxed more she got out a couple outfits and asked which I preferred. Then suggested I get comfortable as she went into the bathroom to change. Things went smoothly from there.

3) recommended providers in the DC area (price range about 300, incall prefer)

Don't know DC. Others gave you good advice there.  You could visit an Asian Massage Parlor, too. Then age and first time wouldn't be an issue.  One nearby one for you is Moonlight Gymn and Day Spa in Baltimore. According to reviews on TER Cocoa and Pink, two girls who are there are nice. If you decide to do this, visit this site first:
http://members.lycos.co.uk/ampdude/newpage.html

Hope this helps!  Let us know how you "make out."