I posted this on the general board & it was suggested that I post it here for the new guys.

Do you really know how to properly make a phone call to a lady that you're interested in spending some time with whom you've never had any contact with?

I know you guys are thinking, "of course I do".

Well, I think I need to explain proper phone etiquette because I get a lot of calls that go kinda like this.....
(PC = Prospective Companion)

Me:  "Hello"

PC:  "Hey, I saw your ad & was wondering if you're available this afternoon?"

Me:  "Who am I speaking to?"

PC:  "Oh, John"

Me:  "Where did you happen to see my ad?"

PC:  "On the internet"

Me:  thinking "No shit Sherlock" but saying "What site did you see it on?"

PC:  "Ah, CityVibe or TER"

Me:  "Did you get to visit my website?"

PC:  "Yeah, I like your pictures"

Me:  "Thanks, Hey did you happen to see the contact page?"

PC:  "Yeah, that's where I got your phone #" "Oh, & what's your rate?"

Me:  "My rates are clearly listed on my website that you visited & I do require a reviewed provider reference

PC:  "Yeah, but I'm on TER"

Me:  "I understand John, have you done any reviews on TER?"

PC:  "No, I don't write reviews"

Me:  "Well, who else have you seen?"

At this point I may or may not get an answer to that question & things may or may not work out for the 2 of us.  The conversation above doesn't have a good feeling to it for either person. I feel like I'm "grilling" this guy that wants to spend time with me & he's probably thinking "Geez, all this just to find out if she's available within the next hour"

"Forget this bitch"    "Next"

OK, so this is how to make that 1st call a success

Me:  "Hello"

PC:  "Hi, My name is John & I saw your ad on TER" "I'd like to spend some time with you."

Me:  "Hi John, thanks for calling, did you visit my website as well?"

PC:  "Yeah I did, I like your pictures"

Me:  "Thanks, so when were you thinking you might want to get together?"

PC:  "Well, I'd like to see you right now but I know that isn't possible since you don't know me yet." "I'll be happy to give you the name of a lady I recently spent some time with."

At this point, I will get the info I need & do MY HOMEWORK (as quickly as possible) & I'll be able to call or email John to set up our rendezvous.

As you can see, many times that 1st meeting with a lady cannot take place within the next hour.

Believe me when I say that even if you have to wait until the next day, you will be happy that you made this connection happen. You may even find a lady that you want to visit on a somewhat regular basis. Just think, now you can call her & ask if she can see you in 45 minutes & hear a response like "Hey Sexy, can you get here any sooner, I can't wait"

I often wonder how many "PC's" I've lost & how many good times were not to be had by all, just because of that 1st phone call?

What do you guys think?

Great advice. And, you're right. It's great to make that first connection the proper way, and then, especially if you are a very busy guy, to be able to call her again and make an appointment on short notice.

of the pieces of information that you need to communicate and check off the list when calling. And save a bit of room for information you receive from the provider. I have a standard "form" for this purpose, just so that I don't go all gooey when talking to a lady for the first time (and, I have done this a bit.....)

But

I *hate* making first conatct by phone.

I rarely see ladies anymore that do not have a contact form or supply an email address (preferred).

I use the information check list for emails as well, but always add a bit of convo about myself to give the lady a feel for who I am.

Note also: Some providers ask for and a few require a picture. It's a good idea to keep a good mugshot (digital or scanned) handy for this purpose....

I stopped doing first contact by phone because of the above reasons. My first contact is always through email, either through my contact form or a general email.  The more information that is provided, the quicker I can respond.  I don't see anyone who has not been properly screened, so last minute appointments for new clients doesn't happen.  My schedule is very limited anyway, so typically some planning is involved.  

I love when some information besides the basics is provided.  It gives me a feel for the person and is a great way to continue a conversation.  

Stay safe,

Kari
(formerly Karizza)