Over a month ago, I sent a provider a message through p411 expressing my interest in making an appointment with a provider, but I didn't say a specific date. A week goes by and I don't hear from her. So, I send her another message through her email outside of p411.  It's now been almost a month and still no reply. So, today, for the heck of it, I sent her one last email. In it, I expressed my interest in making an appointment if it was OK with her, but if she did not want to see me, I understand, but if she could let me know either way, I would really appreciate it.  Should I have just stopped after the second email?

Some do that just because they don't want to be confrontational.  Don't think that you are the only one who experiences this. Lot of guys, including myself, stumble upon women who won't return your emails. BFD..Just move on already...

If you want to see her follow whatever procedure she prefers for booking and go ahead and book. This means pick a day and time, don't just tell her that you are interested.

If she still ignores you move on.

I would move on to another Provider. Just because one Provider doesn't respond to you don't get in a ruckus over it. Yeah it's annoying and frustrating, but there are so many other Providers out in the Market.

P411 will supposedly "discipline" the provider for not responding to appt.requests???

I will quote Gambler...

I had a similar problem a while back.  Has your profile been viewed by her?  Is she even looking at your private messages sent directly on P411?  Are you following any instructions she has for making an appointment request?

There could be a thousand legit reasons for missing an email - spam filters come to mind as a culprit. So, I'll try once and give the lady a chance for a second contact. If no reply to contact number two I'll just move on.  
And yes, when it happened to me I whined on the boards about it, too!

either for the first time or subsequent times will simply not respond to your inquiries.   If this is the case as it seems to be, it's time to move on.  There are plenty of others out there.  I found this out the hard way.

London, well said. Yeah, I think I'm just going to move on.  She's just really fucking hot, so it's a little tougher than usual to move on, but move on, I must.  I probably shouldn't have sent her the message today. Hopefully that won't piss her off, but what's done is done. London, I know you have a tough, take-no-shit demeanor here on the boards, but I also get the impression that you are very professional and considerate of your clients and/or potential clients.  I just wish all providers would conduct their business in the same manner as you.

I've been getting similar results on p411.  I too am in a pretty small market...basically ~40 total Providers in my area on p411.  I went the Pre-Approval route on p411...and it just seems that this might not be the way to go.

Gina at p411 runs a pretty tight ship, and one of her dictums is people should respond to emails, even if there is no interest in taking the matter further. It seems like you have done things by the book, so write to her & explain your situation, methinks you will hear back....maybe a no, but atleast hear back.

Well, yea ha ha. I can't be a total bitch ALL the time. Happy early 4th to you all!!!

Yes, it's annoying to not get a response.  Has happend to me about 5x actually...yet what I have found is that the provider is not getting the P411 requests.  Every time this happens I will send them a PM - for some reason they get the PM and then they get right back to me and say they never got the P411 request.  

for a specific date/time, and THEN she didn't respond...

if she received a message from P411 that she wont respond to a particular client's request?

no provider on P411 that I've sent a "pre-screen" request has ever responded.

make sure you read her ad, and check out her site as well. The answer might be there.  

Just to help troubleshoot- did you mention rates and/or services in your email? Personally if someone asks me about either before screening then the contact ends almost 100% of the time. So check her website and make sure your emails aren't mentioning something that might spook the providers. You mentioned you're a newbie- I'd guarantee if you did mention anything that sent a red flag, with no or limited references you will not get any response, ever.  

No client who has ever sent me a pre-screen request has ever booked.

Read the general details & juicy details of her reviews. Read her web site. Back channel with some of her recent reviewers. This is where you get the answers. Some things you have to wait until the first visit to find out.  

LOL...yup. Out of the 10-or-so "pre-screen" requests I have gotten, only one has ever booked...but I did respond to every one.  

Posted By: SoftlySarah

No client who has ever sent me a pre-screen request has ever booked.

I would've been tossed off long ago...no doubt..ha
If what you state was true, we'd spend all day relying to the assclown-fantasy booker-time waster-self entitled crowd.
Also, sending an appt req when the lady clearly is unavailable based on her calendar/website/advert, may garner you little attention as well....jus sayin.
"Rules" does not mean you own another human being or you're owed anything....period

if she doesnt do greek and it's on her site a client shouldnt have to ask.

dont use the prescreen feature. just book the appointment

Yes, obviously if it (her site) says no greek then asking wouldn't be necessary. I thought that was obvious. Which supports my premise to do your research. My example was for when it says greek is available or if a review mentions it or Her profile does but her site doesn't. Since you asked "when" can you ask those types of questions I merely gave examples. The point is ask after you are with her. Use other methods to find out before hand.  

this is one problem with P411. not always clear whether a travelling  provider is still around or not.

There is a lot of truth to the old saying 'I'll beg for sex and I'll even pay for sex, but I'll never beg to pay for sex."