Younger newbie here.  Got VIP here, signed up for P411 and am set with all that.  My question is if it is okay to discuss services at all when making initial contact or after screening if just using acronyms and such, like greek, DATY, etc.  Not to ask if they do provide those services as that can be seen from reviews and profiles  but to tell them I've never done x or y and would like to try x or y/would like some kind of lessons.  

Seems like people do discuss things before meeting and should be able to if never mentioning rates at the same time?  Or should everything wait until meeting in person?

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You should be reading reviews and looking for such things, vs. asking about them. It is a total turn off and many will not even respond to such emails.

Especially for a newbie who hasn't seen anyone yet, and has no review history of himself.  

There is absolutely no reason to do this. Even after hobbying for 10+ yrs, I still don't do this.  If you have reviews, read them, and you can PM guys for more intel. But don't PM the girl asking what they do and don't do.  

Also, if you use aliases to ask the info on the board, you are not going to get a warm reception. Most people look at it as an attempt to hide something...

read the reviews.  Discussing explicit stuff in emails or phone calls will more than likely get you ignored or hung up on.  Since you have VIP, you can read all the juicy details in her profile, and you can also look at her website.  Many providers list what they will do on their site.  You could also PM her most recent reviewers and see if they can give you any more details.

Swim

You don't need to tell her beforehand that you've never done X,Y, Z and would like to try and get lessons on X, Y, Z.
What you do with your time is up to you, and as long as X, Y, Z are safe activities, I don't see why she would be opposed.

As someone just growing out of newbishness, it think this grows from trying to ENSURE you will have a great time and get everything you want out the experience.  

Here's the truth...there are no guarantees in life ...you will NOT get everything you want out of one lady and there is NO WAY to ensure you have a great time.  That said, going with well reviewed providers will greatly increase your chances of having a great time.  Reading their reviews, website, posts, and ads will give you a good idea of their personality and what they are up to behind closed doors so you have confidence you will get what you want.

It is a bit like golf.  You first couple swings may be less than great, but with practice and a little coaching (read the Self-Help section!) you will improve your game and have lots of fun.

JB

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And all are correct. Sending an e- mail with a menu of questions
just heats up the "irked" button! Also remember
Each meeting is different. Chemistry is different. What she may have done
With one- she may not do with you! It is a gamble, but I have  found when you go with an open mind
and may express during the encounter that there is an interest in ABC- she most likely
Will concurr! Good luck!