I started the thread in General Discussion about a provider being sore from a previous session, but never really figured out how to deal with it in a future session. (Things went well enough otherwise  that I'm going to see her again).  

Are you asking whether or not to ask a sex worker if she can lighten up her volume just prior to seeing you? LOL

There is nothing you can say to her that is going to do anything other than antagonize her.  There are plenty of great ladies out there.  I never give a gal a second chance to make a good first impression.  If I saw her and things didn't go well I'm not going to see her again.

I would let her know that I was disappointed in the last session and expect her to be at her best this time. Since you keep coming back she must have some good points that you like. If she is a true professional she will make it up to you. Stand up old friend. If you let her get over on you she may try to get over on me. The next session may be your best ever. Good luck let us know how it goes

Cause here's the thing, we KNOW how much that situation sucks. We certainly don't make our schedules with the idea that we will go until it hurts too much, but sometimes, stuff happens. Sometimes, you hop on board and you're like "the fuck?? where did this come from??" And it's a surprise even to us. I hope that she made it up to you, either way.  

Of course, there is no way to know for sure, but there are few things might indicate she  does not see many people:

She's fantastic in every other respect. Best BJ's I've had in nearly 30 years. Killer face and body. Dresses really fine.  

Hell has frozen over, y'all!

maybe trying to see her early in the day.  If she is sore from clients, this might make a difference.  Downside is, she might be high volume, which I would stay away from.  The boyfriend thing is also a good possibility.  Of course you could always just go for the oral and skip the fs.

If you have to see her again make it work for you. MAN UP. if you can't do that move on. we play in a big ocean with lots of fish

I decided while eating dinner that, having asked for opinions in this thread, I would be better off listening to the opinions offered rather than arguing with them. Radical concept for a forum, I know.

Simply find someone who fucks once a week or even better, twice a month, not every day or every hour of the day. If she's at all 'tiny', becoming sore happens quite easily. Not all of us have holes that stretch like the Grand Canyon here no matter what size you are. But if she's not, going super low volume is your only way out of this issue I'm afraid.  


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We really do just want to make you guys happy, and there's not much that makes you feel like such an asshole as turning someone around after a long drive :-/ I really do hope that if you see her again it all works out. Noon on Sundays is a pretty random time to get... pounded out for lack of a better way of putting it, so maybe it was just something else going on that she was recovering from that did her in.  

Posted By: 89Springer

I decided while eating dinner that, having asked for opinions in this thread, I would be better off listening to the opinions offered rather than arguing with them. Radical concept for a forum, I know.  
   
 JackDunphy, I don't know with 100% certainty that her soreness was due to sex. There's a couple of reasons why I think so, but I don't know.  
   
 Bostonguy57, she was good enough the first time and good enough in all but this one respect the second time for me to give it a third try. Maybe it's a bad idea. I'll find out.  
   
 OhCharlie, it may be that she didn't want to send me away because I have to drive from another state to see her. It's not the usual entire weekend deal that I've had before, but it's a trek. Or maybe she didn't think of that at all.  
   
 artificial_intelligence, she doesn't advertise anywhere except Eros. I think the bulk of her business comes from her reviews here. Is she high or low volume? I don't know. I don't even know what those terms mean. 1 a day? 1 a week? It doesn't matter to me as long as my service is good.  
   
 swimtrekr, I see everybody at noon on Sundays. For one thing, I don't have to be away from the office phone. For another, Sundays seem to be more laid back. Noon seems to minimize, but not eliminate, the possibility of another guy before me. There's always the boyfriend or customer the night before,  though.  As for BJ's, they're my most favorite thing in life. I book three to four hours, though. That's a long BJ.  
   
 Keep 'em coming  
   
 

She could be sore from last night but if 8+ hours have passed it'll probably let her recover somewhat.  

a repeat.  I'm not looking for "average" twice with the same lady.

soreness could be from many other issues/causes.

It's not average. Way above the first time, and the second time would have been as well if not for the soreness.

There is a large variety in the wear and tear on a provider from different clients. Some guys are small and quick and others are large and take a long time to finish. Plus, some positions can cause more soreness than others. Also, it is possible that the soreness comes only from you, and not from a previous client. Or it could be that the soreness is not from sex.  

Wait wait wait...3-4 hour BJs? My teeth would tear through my lips at that point. No wonder the poor girl was sore.  

Posted By: 89Springer

I decided while eating dinner that, having asked for opinions in this thread, I would be better off listening to the opinions offered rather than arguing with them. Radical concept for a forum, I know.  
   
 JackDunphy, I don't know with 100% certainty that her soreness was due to sex. There's a couple of reasons why I think so, but I don't know.  
   
 Bostonguy57, she was good enough the first time and good enough in all but this one respect the second time for me to give it a third try. Maybe it's a bad idea. I'll find out.  
   
 OhCharlie, it may be that she didn't want to send me away because I have to drive from another state to see her. It's not the usual entire weekend deal that I've had before, but it's a trek. Or maybe she didn't think of that at all.  
   
 artificial_intelligence, she doesn't advertise anywhere except Eros. I think the bulk of her business comes from her reviews here. Is she high or low volume? I don't know. I don't even know what those terms mean. 1 a day? 1 a week? It doesn't matter to me as long as my service is good.  
   
 swimtrekr, I see everybody at noon on Sundays. For one thing, I don't have to be away from the office phone. For another, Sundays seem to be more laid back. Noon seems to minimize, but not eliminate, the possibility of another guy before me. There's always the boyfriend or customer the night before,  though.  As for BJ's, they're my most favorite thing in life. I book three to four hours, though. That's a long BJ.  
   
 Keep 'em coming  
   
 

My guess is that she decided to try and tough it out. It is a bummer that you expected FS and didn't get it. I wonder if she'll try to provide you an incentive to re-book.

Tobi, I was joking. We were just getting started. We hadn't done anything yet, and I found that she was sore.  

Other possibilities, maybe the soreness was more in the pelvic bone area? Ever bike 30+ miles without padded biking shorts? Vibrator used too roughly and inappropriately? The one guy she may have seen the day prior jammed is ragged edge fingers in her sensitive area, causing the outside and inside to be sensitive and sore?
Or jammed his manhood in without even trying to get her primed let alone thinking of lube?
All sorts of possibilities that aren't necessarily due to being high volume.
Just to add, unless she has a private incall, noon is not an ideal timeto make an appointment. Even though you stated you book 3-4 hours, that basically means booking an incall for both Saturday and Sunday.

If you come off as genuinely concerned for HER, you stand less chance of making her angry. IE in your confirmation communication in the few hours prior, just ask how she is doing and express your concern for her well being. People tend to be less defensive when you put their well being first. If she says she is fine and you get the same, then take the money and run. As some else says, do not reward bad behavior.

Just to be clear, I never said she was high volume, and never would. That means different things to different people.

I'm always a nice guy, and I have the footprints up and down my back to prove it.

I couldn't ask about her schedule. That would be rude.  

JuliasLilSecret, I've been careful to ask if I can insert, then ask each time if I can go further. I'll then ask if she wants me to go faster or harder. I do this with everyone. I also make a point of having a shiny manicure and calling attention to the hand sanitizer.