So, I would suggest some research on here as well as reading the Self Help Manual you'll find linked on this page (Lood for the life preserver.)

The executive summary is as follows:

Join a screening service (Room Service is the most accepted in Chicago, as I recall.)

or:

Find newbie freindly providers and write to them in a sincere and open fashion.  Be prepared to give them lots of personal information, however.

Best wishes.

every body keeps asking for refeences i have had providers when traveling out of town but dont have references is the anybody that accepts newbies or do i have to take my chances on bp