I am new to hobbying and have an appointment set up with a porn star. While that was a success i have had failures where i have been told the provider was not sure of me. I have made rookie mistakes . I emailed her to many times after not getting a response or did not provide correct info on my id. I misspelled words in my text or email. I have been told most hobbyists are older gentlemen i am in my early 30's and they expect a higher level of sophistication from us hobbyists. I would like to know the tricks of the trade so i can have a good time. Please somebody school me on the proper way i should get in touch what do i say and what pitfalls to avoid. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all

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- the life preserver here on the newbie page. Then just browse these boards, especially this newbie board and the board that is most local to you. Remember that you learn a lot more by listening (reading) than by talking (typing).

Over 30 is probably fine for most providers, but if your spelling, grammar, or general writing comes off as being uneducated or childish, you might have trouble booking with some girls. Money talks, but I'm just sayin'...

Get a VIP membership, read reviews, and you'll be booking quality ladies in no time.

First of, I would like to clarify that gentlemen involved in this activity belong to various age groups they could be as young as 24, so the age is not really a set factor. Second, when contacting a provider, please read her ad/post entirely. A lot of information that will be helpful to know is there, specially in terms of initial contact (email, phone, text, etc), some even disclose the amount of time it will approximately take them to get back to you. If you email her once and no response was given, re read her ad, check her calendar and wait a reasonable amount of time ( I get back to everyone in less than 2 hours), if she doesn't get back to you, she may not be working or just other reasons, so it is preferable that you move on, do not use explicit language, mention services, discuss money or be very vague, include as much information for the date as possible "My name is xxx, I would like to see you on (date) (time) (length), incall/outcall, do you happen to be available?. Try to keep the emails brief and straight to the point, if her donation is not available after you have done extensive research, you can ask on an email about "the donation for her time". Always provide your real information (whatever she requires) there is nothing more frustrating that having to tell somebody that we can't see them because the info doesn't match (we check everything responsibly and discreetly), you can always get P411, date-check or RS2K in order to avoid giving your info out every time, but remember, providers are not obligated to accept any of those being that everyone screens different, being that our safety is our number one concern.
Be mindful of the lady's time, get there on time (do not show up 30 minutes early and be lurking around her hotel/incall), be discreet, well groomed and clean, do not overstay, have the envelope ready as well as you identification upon arrival. Follow her protocol entirely as it is in place for a reason. The hobby is not a mystery, I think is based on a lot of common sense
practices that will avoid you tons of bad episodes and sour moments. Being a gentleman truly helps you with providers, and my last word of advice, Always stick to well reviewed, reputable and established providers on TER. Backpage is not a place for newbies.
Kisses,
Paloma M.

Don't be a time-waster.  Bombarding providers with emails is a good way to get ignored.  If you get no response to one or two, move on.  Not responding to emails or texts is one way providers let guys know they are not interested in seeing them.  Use spell check before sending, you don't want to come across as either ignorant or immature with lots of spelling errors.  I would also suggest that you not use text-speak either, use complete sentences with correct punctuation as well.

At your age, many mature providers might not want to see you because of that.  Be sure you know the provider's requirements for visiting clients.  Do your research on her, read reviews (need VIP to read the juicy details and see the ratings and fees).  Definitely read the self help center on this forum.  Stick to well-reviewed providers, at least 10 reviews by established reviewers. Like I have told told many others, look anywhere to find providers, but do the research.  That's as important for us as screening is for the ladies.

Swim

Board. You will find many of the same questions repeat every 5 or 6 days. Also, learn to use the search function on these boards. It will help you find information that has been said previously.

Good luck.

Be courteous and respectful in your emails and also keep it short. Don't go into a long statement. If I were going to email a porn star I would say "Hello name is *******. I am from the ***** area and would like to please enquire about possibly setting up an appointment. Thank you for your time and I look forward to possibly hearing from you."

Keep it short and sweet, all the other details don't matter at first. Then if you get a response make sure to answer the questions but don't over explain. Just keep it respectful direct and short.  

Before you respond to an email. Don't get anxious and respond too quickly. Write your response then don't send it. Read it over carefully and check the spelling, consider if what you are saying will be perceived in a positive way or maybe misinterpreted and perceived in a negative way. Once you feel it's ready then send. Make sure to take your time with every response. Don't get excited you might be seeing this totally hot pornstar and fumble the email. Take your time. Try to be articulate and always respectful and courteous.

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The traditional distinction between enquire and inquire is that enquire is to be used for general senses of ask while inquire is reserved for uses meaning make a formal investigation. In practice, however, enquire (and enquiry) is more common in British English while inquire (and inquiry) is more common in US English, but otherwise there is little discernible distinction in the way the words are used.  

 
Cheers Mate