I know there are some escorts that let you shower with them. My question is how do you go about doing this process?  Is it that you join her, or let her join you?  And when we are finished and ask if we can use the shower, do we ask her if she wants to join, or let her decide on her own?

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Some Providers like to do it (or at least don’t mind doing it) or offer it as a specific service, while others don’t want to do at all - usually because they want to maintain their hair and makeup.

 
As far as “how”, that depends on the Provider in question; I don’t think there’s specific, universal process.  Just ask her politely if she allows it, and if so, how she likes to do it.  If /you’d/ like to go about it a certain way, again - just ask.  When dealing with a given Lady - especially for the first time - you should always be about “May I?” and “Is this okay?” and “please and thank you”.

 
One Lady I used to see didn’t mind showering with me, though she’d put her hair up beforehand and asked me to be careful of her makeup.  I enjoyed getting her to lean forward to get the water temperature right while I, um - indulged myself - and then we’d just get in once it was nice and warm.

 
Currently seeing another Lady who politely declined the first time I asked and then agreed 3 or 4 sessions later, but found ways to lollygagg and put it off (hey, for whatever reason she just doesn’t want to, so I’ve just let it go 😏).

 
I will say, I /looove/ showering with the Ladies; it’s just /so/ sensual.  Makes me feel like my entire nervous system is lit up.  -sign-  😍

 
Edited fir grammar 🧐

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When I say “politely ask her”, mean when you actually meet her in person or via the TER PM service (and I /think/ P411 has PMing as well).

 
NEVER ask a Provider about specific services via text or over the phone when setting up an appointment; that’s a good way to have her cut communication and block you.  You probably knew that already, but again - I felt compelled to clarify.

Remember that these ladies are there to fulfill your fantasies and desires. They can get some very bizarre requests. Asking them to join you in the shower is very benign. No one will turn you down for something like that.

 It sounds like you just need to overcome your fear of asking for what you want. It is true that you never bring up sex stuff in E mails or texts regarding a play date.  I do suggest clothing requests in an E mail though.  You can say something like - I love the (X) outfit you’re wearing in your photographs I saw on (X). I would love it if you could wear something like that for me!  I noticed you offer fantasies on your webpage, I love the idea of the naughty secretary! Subtle suggestions is all it takes. If you want to know more about the way she plays in private, make sure you have a VIP membership and read their reviews. Any specific activity like role play, or fantasy, can be brought up in person, during pillow talk.  

Most providers that offer play dates beyond simple GFE make an effort to list that in their ads. As long as you take the time to do your research, you should get a good idea of what a woman offers and what she is like BCD.

about showering together that is, you are pretty much spot on with the rest of your advice

 
I do agree that asking to shower together is a very benign request, but many provlders will refuse the request, with "messing up her hair and makeup" being the most common reason/excuse for declining a mutual shower. OTOH if you are booking with a K-Girl or most Asian providers in general you will find almost EVERY session both begins and ends with a mutual shower. K-Girls have to be the cleanest people on the planet, at two showers per client times 6 to as many as 10 clients a day equals a whole bunch of showers every day. lol

Reason #2 might be that they want to take care of personal cleansing or manipulations that they would prefer not disrupt the flow of things. "You're putting WHAT up WHERE? Hoo boy ..."  The AMP SOP flow includes table (or standing) shower  a return to the room, AND another brief exit to pay mamasan, collect "equipment" and, if necessary, private moments.  
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Some things are better when "Out of sight, out of mind."

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K-Girls are apartment based and start off with a mutual shower, along with BBBJ and sometimes a stripper slide included, followed by the actual action in the bed, finishing with another mutual shower to clean up.

 
What you describe is SOP at "many" but not ALL AMPs.

 
Lastly, the mutual showers are for the benefit of the client, not for the provider to get clean, and when they do get clean in the shower it's usually after you have gotten out and are toweling off at the end of the session, not the beginning.

For the relative Newbies here (OP = Original Poster 2tochultry seems to be fairly new), GaG is not lecturing me or calling me out, 'cause he knows I know the K-Girls and the AMPs. He is clarifying my simplified statement for the newbies.AMPs have different SOPs depending on location and other factors. Some are very similar to the apartment based K-girl experience. I would add that there is rarely a mamasan on-site in an apartment setting. At least not that I have ever seen. So there is plenty of nuance. (Once in a while, there is a third bedroom that seems to stay closed or be unoccupied. Sometimes I get an inkling that a phone girl or mamasan is in there.)  
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In hotel or private incalls, and even some K-Girl apartments, the hostess might not be comfortable excusing herself and leaving you alone in her "living quarters" with her stuff while she goes to the bathroom to shower a second time, privately, and make, eh, adjustments to things. She would prefer to send YOU to the shower, alone, and make final adjustments and get comfortable in the bedroom while waiting for you to return and then get down to business. Many K-girls shower with me, with mutual cleansing and soapy rubbing but they don't leave me alone until the fun is over and we return for a final quick shower clean-up. There are quite a few possibilities and outcomes, but the generalizations are a good prelim guide for the OP.  As you are getting undressed, politely ask your hostess if she would like to join you in the shower.

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Outside of AMPs where the client gets soaps but she does not...  I've only had one who regularly showered with me after.  It was a standard tub / shower with added glass doors.  She got the water running, assisted me in & followed me in.  She didn't get nearly as wet as I did...  She washed me & I turned to rinse.   It was a standard offering for her.
I had one where we tried getting busy in the shower. It was playful fun... couldn't find an effective position...  but we finished on the bed.  We'd known each other a while & I just asked.  
I think there has to be a certain level of trust because condoms are not easy in the shower.        

I go in the shower and she just goes right in and joins me. Like I'm going to say No. LOL!!!!!!!!

Most ladies I find are very happy and welcoming to someone who is honest and open.  Just ask and be sincere about it.  However, understand it's their option.  You need to be okay with "yes" or "no".

If it's that important to you just ask her before you meet so that your expectations are both in the right place.

 
I personally don't like showering with clients because I don't want my hair to get flat and my makeup to get messed up and I usually find it that they want to watch me bathe myself to make sure that I'm clean and I could be wrong about that but it almost seems like a slap in the face for whatever reason but that's a whole other story for another day LOL but I've had a few regulars I've had some hot shower action with so I'm not fully against it. I digress again,  ha!  

But some girls may be okay with that and as soon as you get there and say hellos just something as simple as saying how about that shower LOL or should be shower now or later. Don't over think, she will likely lead.