Newbie here....How can you be verified if you need to be with a provider first?

You have 2 options.
1. Join a verification site, like DateCheck, Preferreed411, or RoomService2000
2. Look for newbie friendly providers that only do light screening.

Once you have seen some providers, and, hopefully, written some reviews, you can ask for some TER whitelist referrals.  You can also ask for verifications/OK's on the sites I mentioned above.

Swim

easing a new guys anxieties.  A lady in her 30's, sometimes called an MILF, has more experience in treating you like a king and making you fully aware of all of your senses.  The younger ladies sometimes don't have the patience to perform this way.

.... I do not require references from other ladies.

Hugs and Kisses

If you write a friendly emailing explaining the situation, and letting her know that you are willing to be screened in other ways (via your employer, or some other method she uses) that might help.

If she knows you are concerned about her feeling comfortable, that can count for something with some providers. It might take a few tries to find someone.

I think you can also look for "newbie friendly" providers on Preferred 411.

I have asked them to do or go through one or more of:

employment/work verification

sending me a copy of their current dl id or state id and/or student id (i've met guys of diff ages who were some kind of college/trade school studet)

sign up to date-check or p411 before meeting.

Your comments reminded me of something I've been wondering for awhile.  I have written several reviews, very positive, about my encounters.  How do I go about getting White List referral?   Is this something I need to ask for?  Do only certain providers do this?  Thanks for enlightening me.