If a lady asks you that's one thing but I can't think of too many reasons why a client would mention that he is married.

When I was married I wore my ring sometimes and other times I did not. Since providers don't care if you are married or not they don't care if you wear your wedding ring or not. Respect?  You respect the lady that you are paying for sex by being on time, clean, polite and by paying her the agreed-to amount without hassle.  As far as respecting your wife goes, well, stop kidding yourself.  You are cheating on your wife. Taking your ring off doesn't change that.  That doesn't mean that you can't still love her and respect her.  Get over it.  I saw a lady once at my house when I was still married.  It was a bad idea.  It had nothing to do with respecting or disrespecting my wife.  It had to do with getting caught.  It was, from a practical standpoint, a bad idea.

Logic? Men are just horny old dogs. Let yourself off the hook and enjoy what you are paying for!

it makes no difference married or not. Its all business its not dating we don't care what your sarital status is, just don't forget the lil envelope.

On one hand, I would think that being married is irrelevant, so there is no reason to mention it.  I am curious, though, if any providers would strongly prefer not to know.

In my limited experience, the hobby's anonymity and nonjudgmental openness cause me to speak and behave with atypical honesty.  So I've revealed that I am married at times when it felt relevant, without much second thought about it.  But I never stopped to consider whether it is something the provider doesn't want to hear.

And along the same lines... Do providers care if a married guy wears his wedding ring?  I feel like I should remove mine during an encounter, out of respect to both women.  This desire to properly respect my wife is also why I would never host outcalls.  It is a curious puzzle to a logical person like me... that I would be concerned about respecting my wife while meeting a provider.  And yet, I am.  

Perhaps we simply feel what we feel, and the mind cannot explain the libido to the heart.

A large percentage of the men in this business are married, and many ladies do not care one way or the other.

If I were married it is not the kind of information I would personally announce to a lady without a reason to tell her, but I would not feel concerned about it if I did tell her in the course of a conversation.  If you are more comfortable saying so, or not, or wearing your ring, or not, I would go with your comfort level.

I made that mistake once, but only after the provider had pestered me about whether or not I was married. Instead of lying, I just thought what the heck and told her about being married. Nothing changed during the performance which was not so great. I did post a review of her which was an average review(as the performance was average), the provider started hounding me in email to change my scores on her review and badmouthed my wife and me which was highly uncomfortable as I felt that there was no reason to drag my wife into it.

So bottom line, even though most providers will not care, it might lead to awkward consequences later, so I will not tell. But luckily, most providers do not bring up that subject, at least with me.

...I've told providers I was married when it came up in the course of conversation.  They have done the same.  No further info was shared so no harm done.

I wear my ring. Figure they assume I am married, probably most guys are. If I take off the ring, there is that tell tale non tan area showing there is usually a ring. Why would you want to start the visit with her wondering why you ae not being honest. If the subject comes up, I tell it like it is.

By the way, emails from ladies unhappy with ratings, here are other places, is why I don't review anymore. Enough stress in my life, I hobby to get away from it.

You' ve got to love the grasp of reality and the honesty. Ever travel to Florida?

Wow Man what a conflicted young man you seem to be. Out of respect to both women you don't wear your ring?? Dude you respect the provider by washing, having the money and not overstaying your time. You respect the wife by not seeing the provider. You are overthinking this. This is suppose to be a fun activity. Allow yourself to have fun. Just like when you were a kid, go outside, play by the rules and have fun. You know what you are engaging in is "wrong" but for whatever need, kink or reason you have decided to engage in it anyway, just like when you rode you bike farther away than your mom told you that you could, you did it anyway right?  So do what you consider to be fun and don't worry about what the masses think. Just like on the playground if you are out of bounds someone who is playing the game with you will let you know. Have fun man. Skip the deep thinking.

I do not ask a guys if they are married or not.I also do not ask if they have children or not.This is not my business if the guy wants to volunteer to provide this info is fine but I do not ask.Also,I do not notice if he has a ring on or not if he chooses to keep his ring on it is not going to offend me at all.Provide whatever info you are comfortable with everyone is different on what they are comfortable with sharing.

I used to remove my ring...until I lost it.  So much for respecting my wife.  NOT an easy conversation, but one that I survived nonetheless.

A GD board topic about wedding rings (link below) took care of this question for me: the ladies generally said, in unison, "I prefer you just wear the ring."  Some reasoned that they actually felt more secure with a married man, thinking him likely more stabilized in his demeanor since he typically has more to lose.

Since then I've never taken off my ring and whether I'm married or not never been a topic of onversation, for obvious reasons.  A couple ladies have asked me why I hobby, but that's about as far as it goes.

If you're going to be conflicted about seeing providers, look at it this way: better to P4P anonymously than to bang the blonde MILF at the school's PTA meeting.  In the worst of cases, your SO can still walk around town without having everyone whisper behind her back that you're banging the homecoming queen's mom.

Of course, then you just decide if you're going to play in this arena or not.

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temporarily lost my wedding ring when a lady was coming to my room during a business trip.  I put it in the bottom of the suitcase and it got caught up under the lining.  Tough to explain when I got home.  Several months later, my suitcase got turned upside down and there was the ring.

..,.I just got nabbed for setting up a separate hobby  account that was supposed to be "paperless," meaning no monthly statements sent to my home address.  Nonethelss some sort of communication was sent there anyway and my wife opened it.  So naturally, now I've  "betrayed" her trust.  Can you spell "over?"

One provider specifically asked me to wear my wedding ring.  According to her, the only thing worse than being caught in public with a man wearing a wedding ring, was being caught in public with a man who had taken his wedding ring off.  Provider claimed that women can easily spot the indention left by the removed wedding ring.

Taking off your ring to hobby, when you never take your ring off otherwise, is foolish. How many stories of guys losing their ring do you need to hear? Keep the ring on - if you don't want to disrespect your wife, DON'T HOBBY. I guarantee that if you get caught, she will not forgive you "because you removed your ring before bangin' the chick."

IF you have the habit of removing your ring for other reasons (working out, playing sports, whatever) then you MIGHT get away with taking it off to hobby, and surviving its loss. But if your wife has never seen you remove your ring, what are you going to say when it comes up missing?

This goes into having these separate "hobby" materials - separate accounts, separate phones - these all increase the likelihood of you getting caught because of a mistake. I have read dozens of accounts of guys getting caught because the wife found the hobby phone, or the paper work for the hobby account. All it takes is one accident of forgetting to hide or turn off the hobby phone - what are you going to say when this unfamiliar phone rings in your house or car?

It's easier for me to explain away a random unexpected call on my cell phone, than to try to keep up with two phones.

i doubt if she even cares...

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