This may be a dumb question, but if you meet a provider at a hotel, are you expected to pay for the room or does the provider?

books the room.  A number of incall providers use hotel rooms to work out of, and thus they pay for the room.  On the other hand there are alot of outcall only providers out there.  If you don't have a place to which to invite them, you will need to make your our hotel reservation.  That goes on your Amex bill.

Some ladies will have you pay for the hotel.  Other ladies set up "shop" at the hotel incall for the day and will cover the expense.  I think the main difference is if the hotel is gotten just for you?

I'd ask the lady in question.

xoxo,
Sola

Wow...I never pay! I have a beautiful incall, and that's a little extra, as I have it professionally cleaned, and spend extra time there to avoid the nosy neighbors.
I even have coporate rates at a hilton....but I've never even been asked to pay.
Everyone's different!!!
My costs, as an independant on a different major hobbyist site, my web site and it's webmaster change charges, photograper, cell, gas/car maintenance, parking fees, Lingerie, toys and protection, six month check up testing, would leave me in the red if I then paid for the room!!

If a provider is offering incall, she will most likely pick up the cost of the room.  Some even charge more for incall than outcall because of this.  I asked one provider for incall, and actually offered a discount if I would get the room.

If there's any doubt, I recommend you follow Sola's advice and check with the provider.