i hear about this newbie manual but i cant find it. anyone got a direct link to it?

...life preserver.  Then click on "Newbie Tips."

You say you "made contact to talk tomorrow."  Talk about what - exchanging money for sex?

You sound much too uneducated about the hobby to leap into the deep end of the pool.  You should cancel your "talk" and study a lot more before proceeding.

Read back several pages here on the newbie board, lots of questions have already been answered and here is a link to the self help center. Do a lot of reading there too. If you can't find all you need come back and ask, many helpful people on the newbie board.

i mean talk about setting up a time to meet and where. there is no way i am talking about money. and if she does its done.

It contains a lot of helpful information.  If you have done your research on the provider, the topic of money should not be anything to worry about.

yes that is the question, there is no amount in the description so how do i know what it is going to cost me? i don't want to show up and not have enough. i read you should put the amount in an envelope and set it on a table or such in plain sight but if i don't know how much to put in how can it.

Her rates should be listed either in her ad(s) or on her website. I for one would be a little sketched out if she doesn't have them listed anywhere.  

a well reviewed (or even a reviewed) lady, her rates are on her TER profile with the reviews.  

...The donation is listed there.  You can email her and ask her if all the info in her TER profile is accurate.  That way you know the donation info is correct and you haven't mentioned sex for money.

If she doesn't have TER reviews, don't see her!!

Here is a thread where your question has been previously discussed.  In fact, any question you have has been answered here before.  You just have to know how to find it...