Since I have been online (not very long), I have wondered something about this review thing. It seems really important, and I can see how important is is from both the guy's perspective and the lady's perspective.

So far, I haven't a need to worry, really, as I have only had one review....

But what about personal chemistry? I never feel the same about two different guys. I will never have cookie-cutter experiences with them. I may be totally moved to have fun in certain ways with someone, but not others.

Do reviews tend to lock you into certain activities? Ladies- do you feel that men come with expectations in regards to your reviews?

A "menu" of activities from which someone can choose to create their experience seems a bit cold and indifferent. Makes it feel like a service rather than an art or an experience. One of the mysterious and wonderful things I love about engaging with different people is the fabulous unique chemistry we'll share and the undiscovered and enchanting places that chemistry will take us.

How do you preserve this?

I don't think of this like a McDonalds drive through where I can order a #2 combo.  This is a YMMV (your mileage may vary) business and should be.  I do not expect the same experience that the guy before me had.

The reviews just give me a general idea of the services that "may" be available.  I'm always more interested in how you make me feel mentally and emotionally than how it went physically.  I know that the physical is an important part of the equation but to me its not the entire picture.  I know what blows up my balloon.  I'll help you take me there.  Thats the fun part to me. Working together so that we both have a great time.

I think you'll find that you don't have to worry about the chemistry.  It just comes naturally.  First experiences are fantastic but repeats are just OMG off the charts.

And yes, I understand that not everyone is like me either.  Some guys just wanna "Rut and Nut".  Thats part of the YMMV.  Hopefully you won't have too many on that side of the fence.

There is a thread below where the john asks the question as well.  The fact of the matter is that initial meetings are the ones that are reviewed (most times).  And even though you say you're not a cookie cutter type of gal...in an hour yes you will be.  Or at least that is how the reviewer will paint the picture.  And if you've read any 10 reviews they are generally similar in content.

For many readers the reviews will show that you are on time, consistent, personable, look like your pics and such.  I don't particularly care about the rest of the "details" (and most veteran fellas don't either).  

If you have much longer dates and want to let the guys know that is an option, ask a fella to modify (rewrite) a review and discuss "how much fun you are outside the bedroom".

Thanks for your answer, Sphinxnc.

I am not so much worried about the chemistry, as I have never met someone I couldn't create chemistry with.

I guess I was just concerned after reading the thread below by the "rut and nut" guy, and how common that might be. And if reviews create expectations you may not be able to deliver on. For instance, while I have yet to meet someone I wouldn't kiss, I am sure they exist out there somewhere...

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I know what you mean re the hour- there are only so many things that can take place in such an amount of time. So I suppose they would be similar, as the thread below states.

are only a guide for the most part.  

how much were you open to the chemistry and the journey once together? Or were you more focused on whether or not she would provide xyz? If so, did that detract from your overall experience, looking back now?

because a large segment of the hobbyist community feels they need to participate in a certain activity, or they will feel cheated.

So, if someone feels they have to have BBBJ or Russian, or whatever, it is necessary that they know that they can see this gal and get that.

I have been hobbying for over thirty years, and I recall the days when I was all excited about doing a particular activity and wanted to only find gals who would do that.

Now, I'm much more into just playing along with whatever the gal is interested in.  I've had some simply marvelous sessions where nothing more than some cuddling and a hand job took place, but the chemistry was there and we were both delighted.  On the other hand, there are gals who insist we do PSE type stuff.  It's all good for me.

So, I understand your concern and feel for you as I was once of a different mind set than now.

It's sad to say, nothing is ever perfect.

... DFK, BBBJ, and DATY. On the other hand, I have seen providers who don't kiss, offer CBJ, and/or didn't allow or I never got around to DATY. I understand the YMMV concept, but I went into those sessions knowing either they wern't offered or it was a YMMV situation.

If I see that a provider does DFK, BBBJ, and DATY in ALL her other reviews then, right or wrong, I will expect the same treatment as well. Now that being said, I also brush and take care of my teeth, always shower right before I get there, use mouthwash, and don't show up to meetings with open sores all over my tongue or penis. Therefore, I don't see why my experience should be any different then all those before me.

Also perhaps a poor career choice.  And yet, you cured her!  You are the Albert Schweitzer of Hobbying!

there was very little GFE.  It was mostly wham, bam, thank you maam.

I did find a few providers with whom I clicked over the years (I still see a few of them, in fact.)

When I found someone like that, it was just heavenly.  More often than not, they were willing to indulge my deviant desires.  There's one gal who thanked me for overcoming her phobia of semen, for example.

When you have such conscientiousness about your hygiene, there is no reason at all you shouldn't expect those things. Unless someone's a complete jerk there is no reason I would deny a nice, clean person.