My first provider with a GFE knocked my socks off. I just couldn't stop thinking about her. I wanted more of her but just couldn't have it. Last time I saw her I almost had her tell me off just to clear my head from thinking about her all the time. My solution has been to alternate seeing other well reviewed providers and her to get a better perspective on things. This is helping now but at first I just compared them to my FAV. This weekend I saw a really fun lady that has given me a clearer perspective on my puppy love.
A prior post indicated a problem with going back to your 1st provider before experiencing 5 or 6 different ladies. I have been having the same problem. The attachment is there. I mean I keep thinking about seeing her all the time. I have a list developed but I have had some cancellations and keep drifting back to thoughts of her. Any comments, I think I am attaching myself to her
Unfortunately there is only one real solution: Time and separation. Going to see "old reliable" when the new girls cancel is just going to perpetuate those feelings.
Honestly, I develop attachments to many of the ladies I see. It's not the attachment that you have to worry about as much as unrealistic expectations.
My first provider with a GFE knocked my socks off. I just couldn't stop thinking about her. I wanted more of her but just couldn't have it. Last time I saw her I almost had her tell me off just to clear my head from thinking about her all the time. My solution has been to alternate seeing other well reviewed providers and her to get a better perspective on things. This is helping now but at first I just compared them to my FAV. This weekend I saw a really fun lady that has given me a clearer perspective on my puppy love.
... she did you for money. Not because she likes you, or because you have any special attributes or merits that she values.
She is a skilled actress who specializes in treating a man as though she were madly in love with him even if, were it not for the money, she wouldn't even give him the benefit of a smile.
As providers point out repeatedly, they are in BUSINESS. Beautiful, bright and sexual dynamos -- indeed. Fun to be around. They fill many worthwhile niches. But they are businesswomen, one and all -- and never forget that.
SOME degree of attachment is a natural biochemical reaction. Nature intended it that way so men would stick around and provide resources for offspring.
Guess what? There are no offspring associated with this, so the attachment is maladaptive within the hobbying context. Any attachment is one-way. If you don't believe me, try giving her a call and asking her to help you out of a jam.
Therefore, the attachment needs to be shucked. Time, distance, and other women are the solution.
It is so VERY EASY to "fall for" or "become attached" to the fantasy of a lady you have great sex with. Yes, it is for the benifit of any offspring! I became attached to my first provider... I saw her a lot. I took a chance: When I told her I had feelings... she because strictly business. She could have taken advantage but to her credit she did not, but neither did she encourage "relationship feelings". It ended at her door. I felt I needed to get more control of my emotions & forced myself not to see her. I found another lady who became a Fav also. Now I rotate my Favs & mix in a new girl from time to time. Please note: I took a huge chance by telling my First ATF my feelings. Many times, a provider will refuse to see a gentleman who they fear may get obcessive. They are wise to keep this under control. skb
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